I think I might have lost a friend

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I have a friend from the 12 step groups who is a gay man
living in the next town
I have been emailing him every night for some years
with my ' inventory and gratitude list '
summarising how I am getting on with my recovery that day

he just replied to one , it looked like he says " Oo "

well in the urban dictionary that means " you just lost me "

unless its something to do with his Outlook for Android

I'm feeling really scared and hurt that he might have left me
I have emailed back to ask what is going on
but fear the worst

:grouphug:
 
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I recently lost a friend too after confiding too much about my delusions, because I think they were real. I think she said to herself, "that is the final straw. That girl is crazy." I should have kept it to myself. It wouldn't be the first time someone has cut me off.
 
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oh hi Salli

yes well maybe when someone cuts us off
its because they are not the right person
maybe it says something about them , rather than about us
something we didnt know about them

at least you and I are friends

:love::love::love:
 
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Yes. I was also a part of a threesome friendship. The other two girls cut me off. That hurt a lot. Thanks for your friendship Zoe.
 
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thankyou for your friendship also

a real friend will still love you no matter what
and now you helped me in a time of need

:loveshower::loveshower::loveshower:
 
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thankyou Midnight

no I dont think we will ever get cut off

:hug5::loveshower::grouphug:
 
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My best friend abandoned me literally one week after my mom died from cancer. That really messed me up. I still am having trouble dealing with it after six years. For me having him refusing to acknowledge my existence hurt way more than my mom’s death. At least with her I had time to process the fact that I was eventually going to lose her and be prepared for it. But nothing prepared me for losing a friend so close after the death. I actually reverted in some ways from all of this because when he was still my friend and talking to me I was finally being more social for once in my life and felt comfortable about being myself around others and then I refused to try and make new friends after he abandoned me and I didn’t leave my apartment that much. I have one friend now that I mostly talk to online and he understands that I have issues an$ am different than most people but he still likes me for who I am. But I still haven’t been very social.
 
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khuang, I am sorry to hear that your friend abandoned you. I am a lonely person too. I have accepted it.
 
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sorry that we share that khuang

I'm trying to remember that one door opens and another closes
but its hard to

I worry that one day the well will run dry

and for that to happen to you after your mothers death, wow ,
hopefully it will make way for a better friendship
like the one you have online

I think having online friends is great,
here we dont hurt each other, with our issues
its like being in a safe environment

:grouphug:
 
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my friend came back !
he said he was feeling depressed
and had pushed the wrong buttons on his phone
which was in his pocket

im not sure if I believe that
but I'm glad to have him back in my life

:grouphug:
 
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you know what though
if I didnt have you guys
I would have made too much of a fuss of him
trying to get him back with me
and then that would have put him off probably :love:
 
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My best friend abandoned me literally one week after my mom died from cancer. That really messed me up. I still am having trouble dealing with it after six years. For me having him refusing to acknowledge my existence hurt way more than my mom’s death. At least with her I had time to process the fact that I was eventually going to lose her and be prepared for it. But nothing prepared me for losing a friend so close after the death. I actually reverted in some ways from all of this because when he was still my friend and talking to me I was finally being more social for once in my life and felt comfortable about being myself around others and then I refused to try and make new friends after he abandoned me and I didn’t leave my apartment that much. I have one friend now that I mostly talk to online and he understands that I have issues an$ am different than most people but he still likes me for who I am. But I still haven’t been very social.
i am so sorry, sounds very much like a fair weather friend, there's no excuse fro abandoning someone like that :hug:
 
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