I think dad has dementia.

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Stand your ground in relation to the care of your Dad. If SS think that someone will do the caring they won't step in. However, it's SS who have the legal duty to provide care to a vulnerable adult(use that phrase), not family/friends. It's a form of tough love to ensure your Dad gets the care he needs.

Lay it on thick with SS about your own mental health and stress that you have reached the point of carer's burnout - as a carer you are also entitled to a needs assessment for yourself.
Thanks yeah. I deffo can't cope now.
 
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I had the hots for the nurse in the ward today. but she was very hard. :)
 
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wouldn't touch a schitzo with a bargepole those nurses are some of the most prejudiced people, as far as they're concerned it's reasonable medical fact
 
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wouldn't touch a schitzo with a bargepole those nurses are some of the most prejudiced people, as far as they're concerned it's reasonable medical fact
i told her i was schizo, but she did not bat an eyelid.
 
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Will see if bro can step up to the plate and get his hands dirty.
 
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i told her i was schizo, but she did not bat an eyelid.
yes but if it came to dating you, at my mothers home i get discussed not because i'm schitzo, i don't advertise that but because i'm turning up in working hours and therefore a scrounger
 
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Hi Burt,
I'm sorry your going thru this, your classed as a disabled person so I believe they can't use the house for care fees etc.
Continuing care is very hard to get couldn't get for my Nan , you have to fight to get.
Take care
 
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Hi Burt,
I'm sorry your going thru this, your classed as a disabled person so I believe they can't use the house for care fees etc.
Continuing care is very hard to get couldn't get for my Nan , you have to fight to get.
Take care
Thanks M. I hope it's true.
 
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i don't know if burts classed as a disabled person, there used to be disability registration, i think that went out with the disability discrimination act, but i suspect councils will do what they can to avoid they're responsibilities, fighting it in the courts if neccesssary, rather than accept a precedent that could require them to treat a no of people decently
 
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i don't know if burts classed as a disabled person, there used to be disability registration, i think that went out with the disability discrimination act, but i suspect councils will do what they can to avoid they're responsibilities, fighting it in the courts if neccesssary, rather than accept a precedent that could require them to treat a no of people decently
will you let me sleep in your spare bedroom then rambo !! :)
 
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i think you have to declare anyone staying with you and your income would count towards household income particularly with universal credit, goverment intention is to stop me sharing with a women in work in case we breed

anyway if i had a spare bedroom i'd face the bedroom tax
 
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I just get totally baffled by all these laws. It just seems so anal and pointless. the only way to keep it simple is to let a judge decide in a court room
 
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maybe if you get a flat you could rent a room out to me and could claim the maximum rent
 
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maybe if you get a flat you could rent a room out to me and could claim the maximum rent
i will have to a get a new job tho to afford a flat in london. but i dont want to leave my current just yet. it is good fun at the minute.
 
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Dad is seemingly getting violent and abusive at the hospital. I really feel he needs to be sectioned and sedated. I will visit him tomorrow to see how he is.

Bro went today and told me this.
 
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I wish the best for your Dad and for you the strength to get through this stage.
 
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