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Sorry to hear about the fall and I hope a recovery from its effects is made.

Sometimes a hospital visit after a fall or illness can lead to a fuller evaluation of needs and result in more help with care. I would ask the hospital about that, especially if they are just going to check and discharge.
 
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Thanks. Work let me go home early. I was falling asleep in a meeting so they let me go. I visited Dad on my way home. They are just concerned about his heart. I think it is okay.

Bro is coming over tonight. Going to tell him to start helping because I can't cope with it all.
 
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if he goes into a home or requires care the value of the house will be included as assets but if theres a disabled person living there the house value isn't included
 
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if he goes into a home or requires care the value of the house will be included as assets but if theres a disabled person living there the house value isn't included
He wants to stay at home. TBH it would be a blessed relief if he went to care home, but yeah we would have to sell the house. I would probably get a new job to be able to afford the rent. It would be hassle but not the end of the world.
 
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even staying at home any care package the assets including house value are included, one friend this social worker assessed his mother, he was all optimistic then they did a financial assessment and all the care promised had to be paid for
 
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even staying at home any care package the assets including house value are included, one friend this social worker assessed his mother, he was all optimistic then they did a financial assessment and all the care promised had to be paid for
With you now. I am going to get bro to organise the care. He needs to pull his weight.
 
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With you now. I am going to get bro to organise the
care. He needs to pull his weight.
my sister looking after brother in wheelchair and mother in home would say i'm not pulling my weight and i have a nerve saying she should be caring for me
 
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my sister looking after brother in wheelchair and mother in home would say i'm not pulling my weight and i have a nerve saying she should be caring for me
I guess it is a hollow victory that this same brother talked about survival of the fittest. I guess. meh.
 
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he didn't talk about survival of the fitttest he did say when i talked to him about my problems evolution in action,
 
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Hi Burt,
Hope they sort out your dads heart problem, it can be exhausting doing all the care.
Take care
 
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Hi Burt,
Hope they sort out your dads heart problem, it can be exhausting doing all the care.
Take care
We have a family friend who helps out. Bro is here now, but I am not sure if he really gets it. meh. Seemingly dad did not recognise him :eek: TBH I think dad was just angry and upset with him :whistle:
 
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yeah same difference, but how you put it sounds more brutal
what else did he say at my uncles 80th he said ann (thats my sister) says he's like some 19th century poet in some attic garrot room, and he can starve to death in that attic garrot room for all i'm concerned
 
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anyway burt you've got your own problems. i know problems can make work difficult and as one guy put it isn't that what schitzoprenia is problems
 
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really sorry about your dad burt. get all the help you need but that usually means you have to know where to ask to begin with is my expereince or sheer luck or both even
 
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I think bro feels guilty now. meh. He said he is going to spend some more time here.

I am sorta hoping that will be a little better when he comes back from hospital. But if he is not, we will need carers. meh.
 
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We went to see dad in hospital today. The doc thinks he has had a heart attack at some point. I am not sure, but thems the bosses :salut:

He seemed okay. I asked them to get rid of the wax in his ears since he can't hear very well.

Bro was there when i was visiting.

They might move him to a therapy hospital to help with his walking.