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burt tomato

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I joined up with a spiritual dating site. This might be better for me.

I love spirituality and hope to be a vegan next year so it is a good fit.

I would love to meet a spiritual partner. I am holding fire on subbing to Guardian soulmates even though it is a good deal.
 
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I live with my dad, in a low paid job with minimal savings. I am not a great catch am I?
if it helps dude, I come with emotional baggage, a council flat, on benefits and 30k in debt. add in health issues, fat and not the best looking bloke int he world......


catch of the week dude!!!


you top trump me !
 
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I am rubbish with online dating. I already got blocked today from that woman i was speaking to on saturday. At least it was not a protracted saga. I have chatted with women for months and then after one date it's over. I mean that has to be for shallow reasons. It happens so often as well..
not dated in many years, not sure i'd know how too now....... i think its time for me and for me to try and find my own soul...
 
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I never had much luck on it pal.
The odds on you going on date on one of these sites and marrying the person is from statistics coming out of Match.com 1500:1 and that’s Match.com. Heaven knows what the odds are like on plenty of fish and the likes.

Play the game Burt. Treat them for what these sites are.

I met Rosie on plenty of fish, been a companion to her for 5 years. It said in her description she enjoyed life to full even though she was in a wheelchair and put a picture of herself up dolled up at Christmas party from 10 years ago.

When I met her I found she had cerebral palsy, which she never told me, spent the last 15 years of her life sitting in a flat drinking coffee and smoking and watching on the buses, she was wrinkly, long gone was woman dolled up at the party from ten years ago.

The best she’d got from plenty of fish in one year from being on plenty of fish, was one chap who came to visit and brought a porn film, so they watched a porn film together, on there first date, then he took her into the bedroom and in Rosie’s words ‘put it up my bottom’, I said well did you let him ‘put it up your bottom’. She said well really I had no choice.

The rest of time, I think she thought I don’t want to go through that again, so every time a chap contacted her, she got him on webcam or something and spent her time revealing there bodies and well you know.
 
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The odds on you going on date on one of these sites and marrying the person is from statistics coming out of Match.com 1500:1 and that’s Match.com. Heaven knows what the odds are like on plenty of fish and the likes.

Play the game Burt. Treat them for what these sites are.

I met Rosie on plenty of fish, been a companion to her for 5 years. It said in her description she enjoyed life to full even though she was in a wheelchair and put a picture of herself up dolled up at Christmas party from 10 years ago.

When I met her I found she had cerebral palsy, which she never told me, spent the last 15 years of her life sitting in a flat drinking coffee and smoking and watching on the buses, she was wrinkly, long gone was woman dolled up at the party from ten years ago.

The best she’d got from plenty of fish in one year from being on plenty of fish, was one chap who came to visit and brought a porn film, so they watched a porn film together, on there first date, then he took her into the bedroom and in Rosie’s words ‘put it up my bottom’, I said well did you let him ‘put it up your bottom’. She said well really I had no choice.

The rest of time, I think she thought I don’t want to go through that again, so every time a chap contacted her, she got him on webcam or something and spent her time revealing there bodies and well you know.
Poor girl. I guess she had needs and desires too. You often to do not think that physically disabled people have sexual desires as well.

Just like regular people, some do and some don't.

I have kinda got sex out of my system. I used to spend a lot of time on webcam sites and got all sorts of fetishes, role playing etc. It got so intense for me, that I visited prostitutes to act out my fantasies.

But I am kinda passed that now. It was fun, but it affected my mental health badly and other aspects of my life. I was never doing well financially and my work suffered.

I want to put that behind me now.
 
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I have kinda got sex out of my system. I used to spend a lot of time on webcam sites and got all sorts of fetishes, role playing etc. It got so intense for me, that I visited prostitutes to act out my fantasies.

never been to one, but have been tempted, esp for the need. but cost/scared buts me off...

i am sad, unwanted and unloved. but sadly its my own fault.
 
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These sort of things have there time and place.

By the way have you ever tried strangermeetup.com.

You’ll never meet someone.

But well it’s interesting.

I had a blast on strangermeetup.com for a month or two and occasionally go back.

Well what can you do when you’re an insomniac at 4 am in the morning, it’s either that or BBC News 24 ‘hard talk’, I can give Babestation and the porn sites a miss.
 
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without naming names is there really any good dating sites?

I tried a "sex" site but as I'm big build and old I don't stand out and lucky if i get a reply.. most just get deleted.. a couple of women have said I'm not that bad looking but not connected with anyone for ages........... last tme was ayear ago but was still with my wife then.... even though we were listed on there as a couple looking for couples...
 
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without naming names is there really any good dating sites?
Well no.

Really plenty of fish, it’s free paid by advertising, it’s a big site, ok it’s rough and ready but that’s principally because it’s free, so you get all sorts.

The problem if you go on these ‘niche’ sites, well it’s money all the time, you could be talking £30 a month and there’s just not the volume of woman, especially in your locality.

I initially joined Match.com but I had to pay say £30, but I think the woman got on for free. It was no different really to plenty of fish. Just a little less rough and ready.
 
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Well no.

Really plenty of fish, it’s free paid by advertising, it’s a big site, ok it’s rough and ready but that’s principally because it’s free, so you get all sorts.

The problem if you go on these ‘niche’ sites, well it’s money all the time, you could be talking £30 a month and there’s just not the volume of woman, especially in your locality.

I initially joined Match.com but I had to pay say £30, but I think the woman got on for free. It was no different really to plenty of fish. Just a little less rough and ready.


well I've done the dance, sex sites, dating site, ladies of the night sites and nothing... not even a rumble in the jungle..... no movement down there... from the sex site, zero.... from the dating site, one half reply then ignored.... from the adult site @ 2 quid a minute to watch a girl on cam its not happening for me...............

should i just log off and give me head and heart a rest?
 
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I like Guardian Soulmates, but I do feel that most of the women there are out of my league.

Meh. I need to work on myself before I can think about dating one of them.
 
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it's not always your fault. sometimes there are discriminant women who avoid men and report them on dating websites.

recently one lady posted on her profile that she likes white men. some other time, a lady posted on her profile that she didn't want bearded men messaging her. these are unfounded preferences, they are judging men before those men even get to interact with them. It's very similiar to discrimination and prejudice, burt.

Discrimination against the mentally ill is known where I live, even the Department of Homelessness Services underlines that truth. And i feel mr.ploppy is right: money is somewhat important as the dating websites want to make a profit. I wouldn't be surprised if dating websites treated money-interested women better than nonmoney-interested women. I wouldn't be surprised if dating websites treated higher paying members than lower paying members, or even treat non-paying users differently. so the discrimination isn't just from some women, but from the dating website community structure itself.

it's not always your fault, burt. in my honest opinion, i'd probably date any honest lady that approached me on a dating website. but some people aren't like me and they discriminate. they avoid men for multiple reasons, some reasons of which are not within the minority's control. Some communities are discriminate and mistreat minorities as well. so you get double discrimination: both from some women and then the communities.

try to enjoy your life, my good friend, regardless of discrimination.