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LORD BURT

LORD BURT

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Meh.
Some girls look and sound great, but instead of feeling relaxed and attracted - I feel stressed out and anxious.

It just makes me feel inferior.

They have photos from social situations where they are happy and smiley. I have not had such photos for over 10 years now.

I live with my dad, in a low paid job with minimal savings. I am not a great catch am I?
 
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A feeling shared by many who use these sites... although I'm a woman and things are supposedly easier for me, I haven't had such pictures either, pretty much ever. Online dating can be and very often is, utterly hopeless and just ruins self esteem. People can get obsessed too, with finding the one. I did it for a year, quit a few months ago. Good for you, giving it a shot. There is always that chance of winning the lottery if you buy the ticket, so I think it's worth a go. Some women don't think they're great catches either... like me.
 
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I think my brother would suit these high achieving women, but he does not appear to be interested in dating. IDK why. Maybe he is a secret dater, but he has never mentioned it.
 
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Twokiwisandabanana

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Hi burt
women are all so different in wHt they want
Just believe in yourself love yourself
Many women are just looking for love and kindness
Fortune favours the brave
Meet them for coffee and see what happens
 
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I don''t really know what 'being youself' means. I just like to sit around and vaping. it's not much fun for anybody.

I don't really know about 'loving myself' either. it sounds like too much hard work. meh I am just undateable.
 
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I signed up to Guardian Soulmates. Maybe it will be better than the mainstream sites.

I read on the BBC that you should aim high, keep messages short and keep trying.

When I am ready perhaps I will give it a go. I may need to change my ad, but I think it is best to be honest from the get-go.

Will see what happens I guess!
 
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Dulcie

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Meh.
Some girls look and sound great, but instead of feeling relaxed and attracted - I feel stressed out and anxious.

It just makes me feel inferior.

They have photos from social situations where they are happy and smiley. I have not had such photos for over 10 years now.

I live with my dad, in a low paid job with minimal savings. I am not a great catch am I?
You showed courage trying a dating site, but don't be put off by your looks. It's what lies underneath that counts and a woman with insight will recognise that, believe me one will. My daughter though she is still very young chose a boy whose looks she described resembled 'a scrunched up well loved teddy bear'. She called him Ted (his real name was Robert) and she treated him really well. 'Ted' is now dating another girl, bit older but just nice.

As for playing the Lottery, number a bunch of pingpong balls with a waterproof marker (1 to 59, I think?), bung them into the washing machine spin-dryer then extract a ball every 10 seconds. The last time a family member did that they kept winning: £30, £50 and £100. It's worth a try.
 
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Chemistry is a numbers game
Don't be put off if you meet someone you don't get on with
Just be like NEXT....
 
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Chemistry is a numbers game
Don't be put off if you meet someone you don't get on with
Just be like NEXT....
Yeah I used to think this back when I was last using these sites over 7 years ago.

IDK, I have had a small amount interest this weekend. Resulting in a possible date next weekend. We chatted on the phone, but she made me depressed about my job. I know my job is hard, but i need to keep my focus otherwise it is depressing.

I wonder it must be easier for women and those types of men that are conventially attrractive. They have much more power I guess.
 
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I think everyone feels a bit nervous dating
people are so different all you can do is be yourself
If someone doesn't like it that's fine keep looking for someone who does.
Hey looks betray us all in the end it's what's inside that counts.
 
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Meh.
Some girls look and sound great, but instead of feeling relaxed and attracted - I feel stressed out and anxious.

It just makes me feel inferior.

They have photos from social situations where they are happy and smiley. I have not had such photos for over 10 years now.

I live with my dad, in a low paid job with minimal savings. I am not a great catch am I?
If someone wants you because you’ve got a fantastic house, well paid job and a great car i don’t see the difference between that and prostitution.

No one wants me, well they can piss off.
 
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I am rubbish with online dating. I already got blocked today from that woman i was speaking to on saturday. At least it was not a protracted saga. I have chatted with women for months and then after one date it's over. I mean that has to be for shallow reasons. It happens so often as well..
 
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Good point about the prostitution.

But you just have to keep on looking, don't give up is the key.

I often wonder in today's world of online dating whether we expect too much from ourselves. Even though it seems that online dating provides a 'quantity of people' and this should make things easier, we still have to just 'click' with someone in order for things to work out. So therefore we have to go through a lot more rejection and this puts people off.
 
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I am rubbish with online dating. I already got blocked today from that woman i was speaking to on saturday. At least it was not a protracted saga. I have chatted with women for months and then after one date it's over. I mean that has to be for shallow reasons. It happens so often as well..
That was awful being blocked like that and for no concrete reason. Still, it happens and one is left wondering why. Take heart, Burt, it's not you. Just some flibbertigibbet woman with ants in her pants.
 
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