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Like breathing and trying to feel what I was feeling at the moment? Yes we have but I had a very hard time with those
 
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Yes, grounding exercises help you to stay in the moment and keep you in the here and now. They also help you from having full blown anxiety attacks. I have hard time with them sometimes, it takes practice, especially mindfulness techniques.
Might be worthwhile rediscovering them and with some practice, they might help you. ;)
 
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Yeah that's true,what are some mindfulness techniques you would recommend?
 
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For me, I prefer the Acceptance & Commitment therapy based mindfulness techniques by Russ Harris. He has a lot of visualisations in his mindfulness meditations. My favourite is 'Leaves On A Stream' and I use it quite a lot. Basically you visualise sitting beside a little stream in the forest and you notice leaves floating past you downstream. For each thought you have (both positive and negative), notice you are having that thought, then visualise placing it on a leaf and allow it to float downstream away from you.
If you Google 'Russ Harris - Leaves on a stream' I'm sure you'll find it. :)

I bet your therapist has loads of creative and innovative ways to practice mindfulness too.
 
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That seems like a great technique thanks for sharing
 
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I actually have a physics exam.. and I'm freaking out
 
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I don't want to sit for it and the only way to do so is to get a certificate from a doctor, I know nothing of the material and it's not the first time I've put myself in this situation which makes it even worse. I am doing the same mistake over and over
 
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I am so disappointed with myself if I tell my parents that I don't want to take the exam it will upset them a lot because it's basically me getting back to my old ways avoiding stuff
 
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And if I try to skip it behind their backs it will be super tricky to get the certificate
 
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Maybe your therapist is the best to advise you on what your course of action should be. Do you have an appointment coming up or can you give them a call/email?
I commend you even taking physics, way out of my league!
 
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I know what my therapist would say. He would say take the exam. And no I can't call him or email him outside of work hours. The exam is actually tomorrow
 
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Then can you visualise yourself taking the exam and doing well? Sometimes a little self belief goes a long way in achieving goals. I know with the study I am doing at the moment, I visualise passing and getting good grades. I feel chuffed if it turns out that way too and you'll be surprised how calmly visualising exams and taking deep breaths can help calm you down.
I agree with your therapist, that you should step outside your comfort zone and take the exam.
Good luck! ;)
 
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Hi, i had similar problems with school. I thought that when i would fail a test or quiz etc no-one would love me so I was under a bg pressure but i finished high school with amazing finals result and got into law school which was kind of my dream? I dont know actually but i failed my first semester and I'm getting worse. My depressed mood and anxiety are making me crazy and i can't get a job. My parents don't understand. But my question for you is, Do you know what you want to do in your life? What do you want to study at uni? I know that you have a bad time but you are fighting and you want to finish school which is great! I don't know what to say about your exam... Can you take it again later?
 
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I don't really know what to study at university .I used to be really into psychology then I lost interest thinking that I am a mess so how the hell am I going to be able to help other people. I didn't revise a word for this exam so I'm not going to take it. /plus with my current grades I wouldn't be accepted into a psychology degree so I feel like I'm floating around with no purpose
 
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