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i only feel okay when i am with him x

Fairy Lucretia

Fairy Lucretia

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when I am not I feel empty and lost and can't settle
I think he is my favourite person
a bit awkward as you all know I mean hermit but I have nowhere else to post xx
 
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I have a feeling he doesn’t mind lol. I agree, I used to think of my bf as my fp also but the fp thing I think is more like one sided? Or can be. I realized that our relationship is more than just me needing him because he needs me too. And we don’t just need each other but even if we didn’t we’d still want to be together. Seems like your relationship is like that too!
 
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And once I realized that things got a LOT less tumultuous. It was easy for me to focus on the negatives when I couldn’t believe that he could possibly be sweet to me because he WANTED to be. Why else would he be? No logical explanation but my brain came up with some doozies of illogical ones I can’t even remember now (thankfully).
 
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FPs tend to be one-sided? I've not heard that one before. I don't know of an exact definition, but I thought of it more as someone you hyper-focus on and feel erratic emotions about depending on their behaviour.

I have had non-partner FPs, but I would definitely say my current partner is my FP, because he is on my mind often, I over-analyse our interactions, I consider (what I perceive to be) his opinion of me to be a decisive factor in how bad of a person I am, how he acts elicits ridiculous emotions in me no one else can, etc.

Would be interested to hear others' definitions of FPs now.
 
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when I am not I feel empty and lost and can't settle
I think he is my favourite person
a bit awkward as you all know I mean hermit but I have nowhere else to post xx
From what I have seen I think he is more of a soul mate than FP to you. x
 
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I have a feeling he doesn’t mind lol. I agree, I used to think of my bf as my fp also but the fp thing I think is more like one sided? Or can be. I realized that our relationship is more than just me needing him because he needs me too. And we don’t just need each other but even if we didn’t we’d still want to be together. Seems like your relationship is like that too!
there is nothing that suggests the FP relationship has to be one sided, it's just if you are emotionally attached to them as lockpon has pretty much already explained
 
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FPs tend to be one-sided? I've not heard that one before. I don't know of an exact definition, but I thought of it more as someone you hyper-focus on and feel erratic emotions about depending on their behaviour.

I have had non-partner FPs, but I would definitely say my current partner is my FP, because he is on my mind often, I over-analyse our interactions, I consider (what I perceive to be) his opinion of me to be a decisive factor in how bad of a person I am, how he acts elicits ridiculous emotions in me no one else can, etc.

Would be interested to hear others' definitions of FPs now.
I think an FP can be different and individual to everyone, but for me the fear of abandonment, splitting and roller coaster emotions are my main things I have to work on
 
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when I am not I feel empty and lost and can't settle
I think he is my favourite person
a bit awkward as you all know I mean hermit but I have nowhere else to post xx
try to find other interests to distract you when he isn't around, it isn't healthy to have your happiness rely on someone else completely even in a relationship, so you are right, he might be considered your favourite person if you struggle to feel good when he isn't there
 
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In the absence of knowing what to say, I think you are a wonderful person Fairy Lucretia and no one could fail to love you xx
 
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In the absence of knowing what to say, I think you are a wonderful person Fairy Lucretia and no one could fail to love you xx
It's true XXX Fairy Lu is so amazing
 
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It’s such an amazing feeling being with somebody because you want to be, rather than needing to be. 🤗
Yep .. I want to be with her for the rest of my life .
There are moments when we need eachother, but I know that we also always want eachother more than need xx
 
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