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angelflower

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Despite feeling poorly, I've had a lovely day with family. Now I have to work hard on not letting the disturbing, intrusive thoughts spoil things. I get urges to s/h when I've had a good time. I feel guilty and it all feels a wee bit uncomfortable. Does anyone else struggle this way? xxxx
 
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You are allowed to have a good time. There's a Core Beliefs Ingrained thread on the forum that you might relate to.
 
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angelflower

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You are allowed to have a good time. There's a Core Beliefs thread on the forum that you might relate to.
Thanks lovely. I shall check it out. xxxx
 
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You are allowed to have a good time. There's a Core Beliefs Ingrained thread on the forum that you might relate to.
Where can I find it please? xxxx
 
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I don't get the urge to self-harm because I feel guilty about having a good time.

But when i've had a nice time but then later on feel my mood dropping, I then get huge guilt and feel crap about myself because I think "I've been treated today, so what have I got to feel bad about this evening?".
These stupid blummin' thoughts are nightmare, aren't they? :hug1:

It's easy for me to say, but you really shouldn't feel bad if you've had a good time. It's a really positive thing and everybody deserves it.

Do you think there might be an element of self-sabotage to this?
Like, feeling good is so alien that you'd rather feel like crap because at least that's familiar? I know that can be quite a common theme for some people.
 
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The reason you feel bad about having a good time is simple - you don't believe that you deserve it. You think that you don't deserve to be happy when there's no point to life etc. Realise that happiness, like any emotion, happens - accepting or rejecting it does nothing since it still exists. Cherish those moments of happiness :)
 
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