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Ok...so what's the cause? That's always my question when "Why am I not feeling good" comes.
This year started real good professionally speaking. I'm finishing my BsC on Chemistry and won a research grant on a prestige lab. The grades are good. And the grant's money helps me and my family a lot. And this is what motivates me and gets me going. The thought that my hardwork is actually bringing me some good.
Middle february I started dating this younger girl (5 years younger (i'm 23, she's 17)) and I got really interested in her. A lot of good conversation, common interests etc etc, what makes a good date...a good date. We kissed and started a sort of unnamed relationship. It was going great in the first two weeks. She called me several times a week and initiative was on both sides. She being in highschool and being a lot younger makes her have a lot of work and with a lot of parental restrictions. I understand this. But I feel that a few hours on the weekend just aren't enough for a relationship to be sustained. Not only that, lately I've been feeling lack of initiative by her part. A lot.
This saddens me and I've been having what I felt as depressive behaviour. I've read about being "Love addicted" to someone, and I'm considering if this is the case. Or if it's just a dying relationship.
What gets on my nerves is one day she saying that misses me a lot. We arrange a meeting for the next afternoon but when the time comes she typically says "this is what I hate about being committed, not being able to stay one afternoon at home without feeling guilty". Yesterday this happened, yet we had a great time. She loved it and she's still talking about it.
But I know, I feel, that in the next few days there won't be any initiative.
I just feel that something needs to be changed. I like her a lot, I know she likes me, but something is wrong or I wouldnt feel like this.
What I wonder is...Is it me? Am I becoming addicted or I am just missing affection?
I want this relationship to work, but not like this. I feel that i should either stop this, or "disconnect" slightly myself from her and see if she comes hunting.
PS:Focusing on work helps me a lot by distraction. But it doesnt solve emotional problems :\
This year started real good professionally speaking. I'm finishing my BsC on Chemistry and won a research grant on a prestige lab. The grades are good. And the grant's money helps me and my family a lot. And this is what motivates me and gets me going. The thought that my hardwork is actually bringing me some good.
Middle february I started dating this younger girl (5 years younger (i'm 23, she's 17)) and I got really interested in her. A lot of good conversation, common interests etc etc, what makes a good date...a good date. We kissed and started a sort of unnamed relationship. It was going great in the first two weeks. She called me several times a week and initiative was on both sides. She being in highschool and being a lot younger makes her have a lot of work and with a lot of parental restrictions. I understand this. But I feel that a few hours on the weekend just aren't enough for a relationship to be sustained. Not only that, lately I've been feeling lack of initiative by her part. A lot.
This saddens me and I've been having what I felt as depressive behaviour. I've read about being "Love addicted" to someone, and I'm considering if this is the case. Or if it's just a dying relationship.
What gets on my nerves is one day she saying that misses me a lot. We arrange a meeting for the next afternoon but when the time comes she typically says "this is what I hate about being committed, not being able to stay one afternoon at home without feeling guilty". Yesterday this happened, yet we had a great time. She loved it and she's still talking about it.
But I know, I feel, that in the next few days there won't be any initiative.
I just feel that something needs to be changed. I like her a lot, I know she likes me, but something is wrong or I wouldnt feel like this.
What I wonder is...Is it me? Am I becoming addicted or I am just missing affection?
I want this relationship to work, but not like this. I feel that i should either stop this, or "disconnect" slightly myself from her and see if she comes hunting.
PS:Focusing on work helps me a lot by distraction. But it doesnt solve emotional problems :\