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mamak224412

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My daughter's boyfriend of two years just broke up with her...you may think that happens everyday and she will get through this but it is complicated. Right before they went off to school last year he hit a little boy on a bicycle and killed him. It was an accident and no charges were pressed. He went to counseling twice and said he was okay. He struggles every fall and here is what is going on now: He is a good athlete and cannot perform at the level he used to, he chewed his fingernails so much that they got an infection, and he broke up with my daughter because he doesn't feel the same. I think he has PTSD and is struggling. I want to support them both. Someone told me that he was damaged goods and she would be better off without him. I feel he needs help. My husband thinks this is an excuse and that he just used our daughter. I really need advice...this is eating me alive.:(:(:(:(
 
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hope this helps

Hi my name is Brian and I have have PTSD for 21 years
I am still being treated and face new problems every day but I go on.
PTSD what can I say about it? Yes your daughters boy friend seems to have got PTSD who wouldn't after his terrible experience. My first time that I can say that I felt some sort of benefit was in 1999 this is when I was in a specialist unit for PTSD. I did not feel it was the treatment but more the meeting of other people with my illness that help lift a large burden off my shoulders. What PTSD does to us is as follows:

It makes you feel a deep guilt so deep there's no getting away from it, it just festers in you. It takes your emotions all of them ( pain love fun even fear) and throws them away. And you are left with an empty soul. It takes your trust of people away. It takes the innocence of the world away. It puts an inner pain in side you, that you feel that no one will ever understand your guilt and pain. Then there's the running away too, far better to be alone and suffer in your own world of agony. Than to face a world that has changed over night with just one incident. You obviously care about him. Please don’t give up on him. try and encourage him to seek professional help or to find people that have suffered in similar ways. Some general information on PTSD may help him too
 
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It Helps More Than You Know

Dear Brian...Your post came at a time when I was feeling very alone....yes, I do care about this young man and I continue to talk to him in hopes that he will seek help. When it first happened he did go to counseling but I think that it was to make us feel better. My daughter has been so supportive and the fact that he has cut ties with her causes me to be concerned about suicide. I have tried to talk to him on the phone and he won't return my calls. I have expressed my concerns to his family. Again...you are a kind spirit to take the time to help....and it has more thn you will ever know!:)
 
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