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elliemay
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My husband has had physcotic depression severly for the past 18 mths..The first lot of meds didnt help at all but the second lot seemed to be be more effective until recently.
He is on ventlafaxine,olanzapine,and mirtazapine.
This is just background stuff and what i need to understand is why does this husband of mine that i love dearly(and believe me that is hard sometimes).
Who professes to love me keep leaving me, he is now on his 3rd time and the pattern is the same.....Over a week or so period
He gets very low
he stops talking
he then tells me he has to go
always to the same place
always to the same person.(A woman "friend") I have to trust she is just a friend because i will never know any different.
I cannot reason with him during this time... Which is frustrating because i know he will be gone a matter of days and then ring me up sobbing that he has made a misake.
Guess what he left on friday and texted me today saying
"I will be home friday.
LOve and miss you very much xx xx"
ARRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR Well that takes the biscuit dont you think!!
He seems to have no idea what he is doing or the enormity of what he has done and i am so confused.Is this running away part of the illness he has Fight or flee concept?
i did not answer the text and he rang a short wHile ago and i could tell he was terrified...........But i did not welcome him home with open arms,i told him i had to make some sense of this behaviour or it will happen again and again,destroying me over and over.I still love this man i married him and for me that means in sickness and in health........I cant leave him but i can live like this..
I am hoping you guys can shed some light on why he does this.. I know he isnt well and 18 mths down the line i still see no sign of my husband,just a zombie like creature in his place...........Someone devoid of all emotion... Im sure if i dropped down dead he walk over me he is that dead inside...
All the mental health team do is throw more pills down his neck.... I have fought in his corner for 2 years now ,is it time for me to admit defeat it is sooooooooooooo hard to live like this xx
He is on ventlafaxine,olanzapine,and mirtazapine.
This is just background stuff and what i need to understand is why does this husband of mine that i love dearly(and believe me that is hard sometimes).
Who professes to love me keep leaving me, he is now on his 3rd time and the pattern is the same.....Over a week or so period
He gets very low
he stops talking
he then tells me he has to go
always to the same place
always to the same person.(A woman "friend") I have to trust she is just a friend because i will never know any different.
I cannot reason with him during this time... Which is frustrating because i know he will be gone a matter of days and then ring me up sobbing that he has made a misake.
Guess what he left on friday and texted me today saying
"I will be home friday.
LOve and miss you very much xx xx"
ARRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR Well that takes the biscuit dont you think!!
He seems to have no idea what he is doing or the enormity of what he has done and i am so confused.Is this running away part of the illness he has Fight or flee concept?
i did not answer the text and he rang a short wHile ago and i could tell he was terrified...........But i did not welcome him home with open arms,i told him i had to make some sense of this behaviour or it will happen again and again,destroying me over and over.I still love this man i married him and for me that means in sickness and in health........I cant leave him but i can live like this..
I am hoping you guys can shed some light on why he does this.. I know he isnt well and 18 mths down the line i still see no sign of my husband,just a zombie like creature in his place...........Someone devoid of all emotion... Im sure if i dropped down dead he walk over me he is that dead inside...
All the mental health team do is throw more pills down his neck.... I have fought in his corner for 2 years now ,is it time for me to admit defeat it is sooooooooooooo hard to live like this xx