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Ipomoea

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I went christmas light seeing with my mom, husband, baby, and an old family friend who is like 87 or 90. Being around really old people makes me think of death and i had a panic attack because...what is when we die there is nothing, no thoughts no other life you just cease to exist. That thought scares me more then anything in life. I cant handle it if there's nothing. I need reassurance....has anyone seen or know for a fact there is something else?
 
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Welcome to the forum Ipomoea :)

I'm not religious, but like to think there's an afterlife. Some people find peace from reading the Christian Bible. Maybe you can find what you're looking for in it? My twin daughters say the psalms are lovely.

I'm sorry you had a panic attack. Have you tried a breathing technique to lower it? Heres a simple technique I sometimes use.

Inhale slowly and deeply through your nose. Keep your shoulders relaxed.
Place your hand over your tummy area.
Your tummy area should expand, but your chest should rise very little.
Exhale slowly through your mouth.....
...as you blow air out, purse your lips slightly, but keep your jaw relaxed.
You should hear a soft "whooshing" sound as you exhale.

Repeat this breathing exercise for several minutes.

You can try this technique as often as you like. It's very easy to do. You can be sitting up in a chair, or lying down. whichever feels best for you. But if you find this technique is making you anxious, stop for a few minutes and try again. With practice it really does work.

I hope you begin feeling better soon. :hug:
 
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Hi Ipomoea
I dont know about an afterlife. I hope there is something. It too scares me to think about death of my loved ones. I think it is natural to think this way and fear it.
I wish i had an answer for you but no one knows for sure what happens. You just have to have belief that something good will be waiting for you.
Hugs
Fox
 
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EstherRose94

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I used to have panic attacks just from being around elderly or ill people too. I’ve never met anyone else with that. Actually I work in dementia research now so it’s gone away. I am personally religious and believe that there’s a heaven of some sort. It would be peaceful and perfect. A place where you perfectly fit. I like the way it is portrayed by CS Lewis.
 
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JCPraha

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We all will face death. I feel bad for people who have no hope. I have assurance of eternal life through my Christian faith in Jesus Christ. Death will come to everyone, and we will all lose all of our earthly possessions, without exception. If one lives long enough, their body will become weak and withered. So, if one does not have the hope of eternal life, there is really no hope at all since a person's time on earth will be brief, and there is 100% chance you will leave here with nothing.
 
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EstherRose94

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However there are non religious but spiritual teachings that can help you too! Ie Buddhism, etc.
 
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Demygurl

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As a hospice Nurse, I always see hope in people when they pass. They see something beautiful. I am, religious…, maybe. But I see something beautiful when they're ready to go. I love being a hospice nurse, it makes me face my mortality, but also I see something beautiful in their eyes. I don't wish death, for sure. But I don't fear it.
 
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