I need boundaries at times. Do you?

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5wimmer

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My friend, who I have added stress to, because of my anxiety rubbing off on her, is helping me still, but has laid down ground rules as to when and how often I can phone her and meet, until I seek help and continue to give her space.

She has agreed, that if I hive her space long-term, things will improve again and we will and should be close as before.

Do you sometimes need ground rules/boundaries as a way of coping?
 
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oh definitely, and its really really hard ...
I dont like boundaries, like to feel connected with people
but actually it doesnt work without boundaries
which are your own choice of boundaries
people vary alot on what they will put up with
and she sounds like a really great friend to have

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I think that it is important to be aware that having boundaries..as it is important to show a little give and take!

Also it will show your loved ones your tolerance levels and your needs in what you are looking to do in life, and most importantly how you want to recover.

Big hugs xx
 
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Rather than had an awkward convo, I have self boundaried lol.
Its to help me more than them.
Got to work on myself, by myself.
Do think ur friend sounds a bit rude, near to controlling. Better that way than just ignoring u I guess?
 
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what kind of boundaries are you thinking you need? or what kind of boundaries have others shared they would like from you?
 
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I struggled with the idea of boundaries recently
I thought that I dont even know what that means

and then I realised its what I will and wont put up with
which might vary from one person to another

if I even know what I will and wont put up with though,
sometimes if a person is very assertive or aggressive
I might lose touch with how I'm feelings

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My friend, who I have added stress to, because of my anxiety rubbing off on her, is helping me still, but has laid down ground rules as to when and how often I can phone her and meet, until I seek help and continue to give her space.

She has agreed, that if I hive her space long-term, things will improve again and we will and should be close as before.

Do you sometimes need ground rules/boundaries as a way of coping?
i dont but if you pester someone and dont look for the right help i can see her frustration if you want to get better you take the help from professionals
 
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