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I need advice.



Apr 10, 2015
I have a dear friend in the USA. (I live in Scotland) She's suffering from breakdowns, bad dips of depression and there is only so much I can say and do for here to keep her head above the water so to speak. I try my hardest with her and I seem to be able to do the trick the majority of the time.
She is refusing to go to see the relevant help at her school as they legally have to inform your parents apparently? I'm not sure what happened to patient confidentiality here? But not coming from the country I don't know what help there is available, what's my options here, she has to talk to someone but doesn't want this going back to the family for certain reasons. Anyone that knows what systems that are in place, could you please direct me or fill me in?

Just trying my best.


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Aug 17, 2012
The West Country
Hello and welcome to the forum.

I don't know a great deal about how things work in the States either, but i'm guessing that if she's under 18 then there are rules that her parents would be informed if she's at risk to herself or anybody else.

You sound like a very caring friend, but there's only so much you can do. And that's not just because you live so far away - it's true that people can only truly help themselves if they want to.
I think that continuing to offer support is the best you can do.
I would also try to encourage her to accept the help at school. As I said, I do think that there is confidentiality to a certain extent, unless she is at risk in some way.

I'm sorry I can't be more helpful. Hopefully a member from the States will see this and be able to give you some more specific information.


Nov 1, 2014
Welcome to the forum CraigMCS :)
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