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I need advice urgently.

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stephen27898

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I dont know if i should just burst into tears or try and control/distract myseld.
 
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What do you need urgent help for?

If your life is in danger you can go to A&E or call the emergency GP at your local surgery.

If you just want to talk to someone, there are phonelines, such as samaritans. You can just let it all out and talk it all through with them for as long as you want.
 
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stephen27898

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What do you need urgent help for?

If your life is in danger you can go to A&E or call the emergency GP at your local surgery.

If you just want to talk to someone, there are phonelines, such as samaritans. You can just let it all out and talk it all through with them for as long as you want.
But i dont know if letting it out makes me better or worse.
 
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stephen27898

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In if i should try and control myself and my emotions or just let them out, i dont know.
 
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smallgeezer

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why are you afraid of letting your emotions out?
 
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smallgeezer

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I would like to add that you don't need to let your emotions out if you are talking to the Samaritans helpline.

You can talk to them about whatever you like.

There are available 24/7 365.
 
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smallgeezer

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do you see a trained psychotherapist?

They may be able to give you more appropriate advise on this.
 
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stephen27898

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I would like to add that you don't need to let your emotions out if you are talking to the Samaritans helpline.

You can talk to them about whatever you like.

There are available 24/7 365.
I just feel so on edge and i hurt so much.
 
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smallgeezer

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is there anything that has helped you before?

such as having a hug from a close friend/family member.....doing art....going for a walk....breathing exercises....etc.
 
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Right Stephen, you have been skirting around this on here for about a week and it is not getting any better is it?! Thing is can you, should you hold this through the night? Are you safe? Can you keep self safe? Can you go and stay with someone who will help keep you safe? No to all of this? You best call NHS 24, Do it now and tell them you think you are at risk of self harm. The point is you will be admitted to a hospital which is a place of safety. A nursing plan will be put together to keep you safe. Please do this. Do not take the chance with your life.
 
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Right Stephen, you have been skirting around this on here for about a week and it is not getting any better is it?! Thing is can you, should you hold this through the night? Are you safe? Can you keep self safe? Can you go and stay with someone who will help keep you safe? No to all of this? You best call NHS 24, Do it now and tell them you think you are at risk of self harm. The point is you will be admitted to a hospital which is a place of safety. A nursing plan will be put together to keep you safe. Please do this. Do not take the chance with your life.
I dont want to be sectioned, my care coordinator planned 2 things for me tomorrow and i dont want to miss them i want to get past this.
 
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Well you would not be sectioned if you went in voluntarily! But fair enough, however,you are the one drawing attention to yourself as being in a bad way. And I am the former Mental Health Officer used to being involved in this sort of thing. Suicidal impulse and ideation can sometimes be worked through but you owe it to yourself to discuss it with your team in the morning! Maybe they can mobilise supports from the Crisis service to maintain you at home. Let us know how you are doing tomorrow. IF you can't hold it go to hospital willingly.
 
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To "burst into tears or try and control/distract myself" From what I understand, you are afraid of your emotions becoming totally out of control to the point that it will be harmful to you, and you are thinking that containment might be safer. This suggests that you have some insight and desire for self preservation. I have reached that point on a few occasions in my life. One time I did let loose and I felt as if I were going to either lose consciousness or lose touch with reality. Very scary. On other occasions, having the rational part of me take over to the point where either my emotions were churning inside or I shut down was also counterproductive. I think in these situations, what we both seek is controlled emotional release, and the ability to discern when were are ready and how much we can handle. You need a safe place to do that. On the other hand, I had an experience within the past year and a half with bereavement, which included fear of the unknown in terms of how I would handle the death, so I was afraid to get in touch with and express grief. However, as my grief counsellor pointed out, these grief bursts were short lived and controlled, and provided relief afterwards. When we try to resist our feelings, they tend to intensify. This happened to me quite recently and I reacted quite strongly to a criticism related trigger during a conversation. In one way I was disappointed in myself, and certainly the emotions/verbal tirade felt uncomfortable in the moment, but afterwards I felt a sense of liberation in letting the person know how I felt. I guess what it boils down to is the context - how intense the emotions are, the issues involved, how ready you are and the opportunities for safe self-expression. I hope you find a safe way of dealing with your feelings.
 
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