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Edene33
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I’m currently pregnant with twins and I’ve now had my second panick attack last night because of my husband stressing me out and making me feel so low. He just doesn’t seem to understand the way he comes across and doesn’t care about my feelings. I don’t know how much more I can take.
We basically had an argument because he turned round to me in bed last night and said his best friend was coming over today to walk our dogs as he was passing by. Now bearing in mind that I haven’t seen my best friend since the summer and in this time her dad has died and I’ve become pregnant, I’m desperate to see her and she’s desperate to see me. So I said to him as long as he follows social distancing as they were only going to go outside for a walk that’s absolutely fine. I then asked him why don’t I ask my best friend if she can come over soon for a walk with me so that I can at least see her. His reply was “no I wouldn’t advise that as I’ve seen text messages that you’ve sent each other saying you will give each other a big hug when you see each other again” I told him with the current situation obviously I wouldn’t do that and with being pregnant that would just be silly. He didn’t listen and just kept saying I wouldn’t advise meeting her until after the birth or even maybe in the summer! Oh but it’s okay for him to see his friend whenever he wants while I sit and struggle for months on end not seeing my friend? I don’t know if I’m being silly and overthinking things but to me that doesn’t seem very fair. At the end of the argument he said that’s fine I will text my friend and cancel him coming over tomorrow because your freaking out. I haven’t told him to cancel anything, all I asked was that I would like to see my friend too but he turned it round as if I’m being the bad one.
Also ontop of this I’m struggling at the fact of not only when I’m going to see my best friend next but when I’m next going to see my mum. (I’m an only child and never met my dad so me and my mum are extremely close) I seen her at Xmas and before that it was in the summer because of COVID. My husband seen his parents too. We are planning on moving into a bigger house next week and his parents were going to come down to help us move things and build some nursery furniture in the new house. However my mum keeps asking me if she can come and help us too, I asked my husband and he said he doesn’t want her coming because he doesn’t want to risk spreading the virus. I understand this but he doesn’t seem to understand that it’s ok for him being able to see his parents again so soon and I’ve to sit here while already missing my friend and worry when I’m next going to see my mum. He actually said I will be lucky to see my mum before I give birth in the middle of March because of the virus. I just can’t bear the thought of that and he doesn’t care as long as he is alright and sees his family and friends
The previous argument a few weeks ago that caused me another panic attack was along similar grounds where I felt he was telling me what I could and couldn’t do and I’m now starting to feel depressed and genuinely miserable.
Sorry about the long message but I’ve been struggling for so long and didn’t know who else I could talk to
We basically had an argument because he turned round to me in bed last night and said his best friend was coming over today to walk our dogs as he was passing by. Now bearing in mind that I haven’t seen my best friend since the summer and in this time her dad has died and I’ve become pregnant, I’m desperate to see her and she’s desperate to see me. So I said to him as long as he follows social distancing as they were only going to go outside for a walk that’s absolutely fine. I then asked him why don’t I ask my best friend if she can come over soon for a walk with me so that I can at least see her. His reply was “no I wouldn’t advise that as I’ve seen text messages that you’ve sent each other saying you will give each other a big hug when you see each other again” I told him with the current situation obviously I wouldn’t do that and with being pregnant that would just be silly. He didn’t listen and just kept saying I wouldn’t advise meeting her until after the birth or even maybe in the summer! Oh but it’s okay for him to see his friend whenever he wants while I sit and struggle for months on end not seeing my friend? I don’t know if I’m being silly and overthinking things but to me that doesn’t seem very fair. At the end of the argument he said that’s fine I will text my friend and cancel him coming over tomorrow because your freaking out. I haven’t told him to cancel anything, all I asked was that I would like to see my friend too but he turned it round as if I’m being the bad one.
Also ontop of this I’m struggling at the fact of not only when I’m going to see my best friend next but when I’m next going to see my mum. (I’m an only child and never met my dad so me and my mum are extremely close) I seen her at Xmas and before that it was in the summer because of COVID. My husband seen his parents too. We are planning on moving into a bigger house next week and his parents were going to come down to help us move things and build some nursery furniture in the new house. However my mum keeps asking me if she can come and help us too, I asked my husband and he said he doesn’t want her coming because he doesn’t want to risk spreading the virus. I understand this but he doesn’t seem to understand that it’s ok for him being able to see his parents again so soon and I’ve to sit here while already missing my friend and worry when I’m next going to see my mum. He actually said I will be lucky to see my mum before I give birth in the middle of March because of the virus. I just can’t bear the thought of that and he doesn’t care as long as he is alright and sees his family and friends
The previous argument a few weeks ago that caused me another panic attack was along similar grounds where I felt he was telling me what I could and couldn’t do and I’m now starting to feel depressed and genuinely miserable.
Sorry about the long message but I’ve been struggling for so long and didn’t know who else I could talk to