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Comeup2goDown

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Ive been struggling with depression for a long time. At this point in my life I've realized it has so much to do with things that happen in the past. I just cant forget, im haunted by my past day & night, even in my dreams sometimes. I hadnt told anyone about how ive been feeling until about 5yrs ago. It was so bad i had to reach out to someone. This person was a relative that i have alot of love & respect for. I told them how down i was & how i felt like im just spinning wheels & going no where. I was told "you re a young man, men dont get depressed Its weak, fight thru it & move on. Now, i never got specific & said why i felt the way i do. Its just too much to speak on when its the first time your reaching out. This person told other relatives & outsiders I guess i kinda felt betrayed in a sense so ive never told anyone else. Now im not only depressed but i feel as if everyone can see this pain so i have isolated myself. I go to work, come home doing just enough to get by. Im stuck in vicious cycle
 
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Dooley

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Men do get depressed. Its not weak at at. I am on medication for mine. It may or may not help, but mine, it helps me relax. I dont give a Sxxx what people think of me. Stuff the lot of them. I have no friends now since i moved on.......neighbours dont talk to me.....but, stuff them. I have my problems which i put on other threads. Ignore others. Get that medication.
 
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Snowshoes68

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I'm sorry that happened to you. It's so difficult to reach out for help and is extremely damaging if it doesn't go well. I've found that some people just don't understand and it's better not to talk to them. But there are people who can offer you the guidance you need, whether it's an empathetic ear or advice.
 
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Comeup2goDown

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Men do get depressed. Its not weak at at. I am on medication for mine. It may or may not help, but mine, it helps me relax. I dont give a Sxxx what people think of me. Stuff the lot of them. I have no friends now since i moved on.......neighbours dont talk to me.....but, stuff them. I have my problems which i put on other threads. Ignore others. Get that medication.
What medication works for you? Any Side effects?
 
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Comeup2goDown

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I'm sorry that happened to you. It's so difficult to reach out for help and is extremely damaging if it doesn't go well. I've found that some people just don't understand and it's better not to talk to them. But there are people who can offer you the guidance you need, whether it's an empathetic ear or advice.
Yea, some people dont understand & thats ok, but when family doesn't it makes things worse. I havent spoken with some relatives for a while and its eating me alive. They just dont understand , its hard to just snap out of this. When i try to go out/socialize the anxiety can be overwhelming
 
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Dooley

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My psyciatrist that i used to see put me on 450mg of Trazodone as i told him that other medication didn't work. However, my GP and pharmacy told me that i could not take more thsn 300mg. I never asked why, i just got a letter in the post as my GP only talks to me over the phone. But, i think it is because i take various other medication too.....for my diabetes, gout which i dont have anymore, plus painkillers. But, there were side effects at first , dizzy spells, drousiness, i suppose there were others too which i never really noticed but no, no side effects now. Just knocks me out at night. But, nothing to worry about. Some people say it doesn't work, others say it does. Me, i just take it at night and have a good sleep.
 
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