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I have no idea what to do right now

Soul_Deeps

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I really don't know but she has done it before. Eventually she answered back then but this time, I already messaged her three times but no response. I assume she doesn't want to help me anymore. I can't really call her, so email is my only way.

There is no deadline from the insurance company, the deadline comes from the university start. I can only start studying once a year at a specific time (end September / start october). So the problem is, in order to be able to study, I must finish the therapy before. But it will take months. So I really can't wait any longer, also I can't study without therapy. I am completely broken.
 
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Ohh okay I understand now. Well first off let’s try to assume that your therapist is like really busy/ forgetful/ not great at answering promptly rather than that she is annoyed or ignoring you.

I guess if the time doesn’t work out, shoot to get into school next semester? I know that wouldn’t be ideal but it might be okay. Hopefully she answers soon and you don’t have to do that.
 
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I don't know, she is completely ignoring me since weeks. That's a really long time. Especially considering that she knows in what bad of a place I am. What could I do to solve this? Finding a new one will take many months. There is also that stuff in my head going on telling me the only communication I can have with her until the rest of my life is to never message her again forget her because she abandoned me... Right before I sent a new message begging to her to help me.

Next semester wouldn't be possible, it would be one year later, which is almost one and a half year from now. To be honest, I will start next year (hopefully) at the university where I really want to be. However, until then, I need to study one year something else. I am for too long at home already, I am barely holding up, and the truth is, if can't start this year, I am very certain and convinced I will not survive this year. I just can't anymore.

I am sorry, I know I sound self pity, but I am really thankful you are talking to me.
 
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Hi soul deep can I guess that your a younger member of the forum if your applying to university. If so are you still living at home so you have family that can help or do you have an older person that can support you. If not can you see your doctor and see if you can be referred again.
 
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I wasted a lot of years already in my life, I don't think I can be called young anymore :( I already had some tries to go to university before but it never went well.

I am living at home again at the moment, but already longer than I intended to. Before when I had uni I always lived outside home. Unfortunately I don't have any friends and my family is really toxic.

Well I could see my doctor, I am just not sure if he could refer me? I don't think he knows psychiatrists, he would probably just give me names or numbers, but not actual appointments. Do you think it would be worth asking him? I could maybe see him tomorrow.
 
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Being in Germany makes it difficult to give advice as I don’t know anything about your health service . Is it private
 
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Ah. In Germany are private insurance companies but also non-private ones. Everyone has a non-private one by default, but you can buy better services from private ones. Most doctors and psychiatrists and therapists accept both. However, having a full-covering private insurance means you have almost no waiting times (which I haven't got). So the insurance is not actually keeping me from visiting doctors or so.

It's different in my case when it's about a stationary setting (or is "hospitalized" the right word?) because I have in addition to my non-private insurance a private insurance which is only relevant for such settings. Unfortunately, they can freely decide if they pay or not and if they decide a hospitalization is not needed, they won't pay, which is what happened here. So I need a psychiatrist to send them more and better elaboration on why I need it.
 
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