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I have best friends but I cant talk about my MH. feelings of isolation and trust issues.

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Pffft

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I have best friends but I cant talk about my MH. feelings of isolation and trust issues.

Hello, I guess I am at a loss as I was worried about posting this.

I have 2 best friends and I feel I am always there for them but when it comes to my MH they aren't there for me. one of them doesn't get it and when I brought it up through text, to chat about it when we next meet she actually said she didnt think it was best as it may put a downer on things. I was really gutted by this and tbh she has never been great at MH problems. I am really struggling with how I am/ feel and tbh I feel I have no one to talk to about problems specific to BPD. I know that it isn't common and therefore not a lot of people have heard of it, let alone know anything about it but it really does hurt to feel this way about a close friend.

The other friend was great and unfortunately we fell out over christmas as she said I was negative all the time. In all honesty I think she was wrong because I barely was negative and when I was it was because I was talking about my MH. Over xmas she decided she needed a break from me so we stoppedd contact. After a while (just after NY) we got talking and we were honest with eachother and made up. But eversince then I feel I can't talk to her about it anymore as I just can't deal with the rejection. I know I need to talk about things as a problem shared is a problem halved but I feel I will never be able to trust her about it again.

I am at a loss with how I feel. I am paranoid, have a huge issue with trust and feel so isolated. Do these feelings ever go away?

Thanks
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Hi there, Pffft. It isn't that we can't trust people. It's that they can't handle hearing about mental health issues.
I don't expect people to be able to listen to mental health talk, so I modify what I talk about with most folks. Not everyone is cut out for that.

I got lucky and one of my two girlfriends CAN handle this topic, but only for short spells and not very often. It would burn her out to hear it more often, so I respect this limitation. It's too intense for people.

But I can trust my girlfriends otherwise. Even talking about my leg problems is something that can only be mentioned briefly and not very often because that's a bummer. But since one of the two has recently developed severe leg problems, now it's an open topic.

She can relate to it better now, so it's open season on conversations about leg/back pain. If they developed a mental or emotional problem, they'd be able to understand that too, finally.
 
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