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I have a Daughter

Guy12182

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I have a Daughter who I found out after leaving my ex-wife and mother of my child was self harming. My daughter was just 8 yrs old when I left. There was a time when I was bad with mental illness and I hadn't seen my daughter for a while or talk to her. At the time, I was punishing my ex and I guess my daughter for the break up. My ex babied her and would always interfere when I wasn't teaching my daughter right from wrong, no matter how small the issue was....

....So, come to find out my daughter was self harm herself. She's better now at age 26 and I have 4 beautiful grand kids from her. We both talk a lot now and my daughter even told me about it, but never really said why I guess. I never asked. Why wasn't important. Today and tomorrow is.

just wanted to share an experience, my experience with self harm.

....maybe I forgot to mention, does getting real mad and hitting things fall in this category? Not sure. I have done that in the past.

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FYI Addition to thread

More information pertaining this is the importance of this situation and knowing the whole story.
Currently, my daughter and I are doing wonderful. She forgives me for being absent in her life during my break up with my ex wife, her mother. I am not proud of myself at all for this! But I realize as well as my daughter does also, that we are alike in many ways. We talk with each other a lot now, "for the last 6 years". And currently we are actively talking on a regular basis. My daughter will laugh with me and say "Oh my god, we're so much alike". We both deal with mental issues.
As of today, my daughter is doing great, 4 kids, and doesn't drink or do drugs anymore and doesn't even smoke cigarettes. She is being a good mom and orginizing her life great. I am proud of her and she is proud of me.
The moral to this point is: Things happen for a reason, some worse then others, some can be understood more than other reasons.
My daughter and I live for today and the future, not in the past. We both love each other! We're happy!

Thank you all for reading. Any questions feel free to ask.
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I am glad your daughter is now well and you two get on.
 
Guy12182

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My Daughter

Me too midnightphoenix. I knew I could count on her. We're already talking more now that I'm done with this 2nd relationship on my life. Life to me is a lesson learned. I'm not perfect and I never justify any wrong that I do. So I will plan for the new future, now with my Daughter well involved!

It's time to put Mind Over Mood.


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