I hate two faced people.

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nightmare57

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I attend a day centre. There is a member of staff who is really bitchy. This is a small NHS day centre and it separate from any other NHS service in town meaning the staff are really close and all friends because they've work with each other all day so there is a lot of banter between themselves which with me being more able then the other learning disability service users I am apart off and they include me in it which I like. This staff member slags everybody off staff and service users behind their backs but he's his nice to their face. This makes me really paranoid because I think he slags me off behind my back, when they drop me off at home in the minibus I can't help but think he'll start commenting and slagging me off when I've left them, maybe he has a nickname for me like he does other service users? What I find hard is he is my age and very quick witted and I kind of admire him, I join in his banter to feel accepted and it makes me feel uncomfortable and feel bad when he's openly slagging people off. Is that what happens in work placements? Is this normal behaviour in the work place?
 
Poopy Doll

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nightmare, it may be "normal" in some work places but it's not ideal behavior. It goes against basic ethics that you'd prefer to have in a day center. Someone could say something to him about saying bad things about people behind their backs. This doesn't make him COOL and someone to admire. This is a big character defect that he has.
 
somedaymaybe

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Unfortunately, it is kind of normal. It's terrible and sad, but in most cases it's the truth. Though I think because it's more about people's behaviour, and they're not going to suddenly change it once in the work place. If he does this again, you can simply say you don't appreciate it or find it appropriate in the work place or in general. But it's better to avoid these people, even if they're nice to your face, you really don't want to get involved with people who so blatantly talk about other's in disrespectful ways.