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I hate social environments, but being lonely is sad

Fairy Lucretia

Fairy Lucretia

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i know exactly how you feel xx i hate being around people (i never go out anymore) but i also hate being alone and need somebody with me all of the time
its difficult xx
 
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I think that is because in general, people can sometimes be difficult to be around. For people with social anxiety, the best social environments are those where the people mostly happy and positive. These types of people are found at churches and volunteer community events. Also little kids can also be a breath of fresh air to be around. I suggest when you start feeling a bit better, to try to get involved in a church or a volunteer event. Or even volunteer at a elementary school or day care. Some thing where you can get out and be around people that are positive and in general are loving, caring and compassionate. Some churches are better than others for that type of environment, however in general I find them pretty good. I go to one for example where I am one of the youngest people there, but the people are so nice, its hard to go home in a bad mood no matter what is going on in my life. It is important to be around people, but they have to be positive, especially when you are trying to get better. I hope this advice helps.
 
Jaminacaranda

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I obviously can't have it both ways but both being in a crowed and being alone worries me a great deal
This is very true. I don't think I will ever get over my fear and loathing of big crowds so my solution has been simply to avoid them. I've always found living with other people very difficult though, so I've often yearned to live alone. I'd just like a boyfriend to come and stay Friday night to Sunday lunch. Perfect.
 
SomersetScorpio

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I can relate too.
I think I am naturally an introvert and find too much stimulation stressful even without the mental health issues, but it's absolutely no fun being lonely and having no friends to call upon on the rare occasion when you do want to go out.
I have such a big fear of groups - I hate being in a large group of people because I will inevitably be left out or isolate myself first so that it'll seem like it's my choice i'm alone. :doh:

I think hamlet_cat is right though. It can make a big difference where you socialise and the type of people you spend time with.
I've found the most supportive environments to be at places like meditation workshops or art groups.
 
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I used to hate being around people as well. I changed I dont know how I went from scared and overwhelmed to feeling energized and alive when Im in a crowd. Im learning new things about myself everyday.
 
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