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Lost.Boy

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I'm in a similar boat but am lucky to have lots of friends, I just most of the time at least find it hard to beleive they really care about me and are only friends with me cos they want something. I am near enough useless at making new mates though, pretty much everyone I know i've met through mutual friends.

I haven't worked in years and god knows when I'll be able to next, even volunteer work with a mental health charity went wrong for me cos of social anxiety :mad: I'd be fine if I could find something that meant I didn't have to talk to strangers. Or people for that matter. It's all down to the fact that all it would take is one person to say something to me that upsets me and I can't handle it. All jobs i've ever had have ended with me off sick until I end up signed on sick again due to the stress. I'm just so weak :(

Us humans are built to socialise but frankly i've always felt happier isolated, which is ironic cos being isolated makes me unhappy.

Don't you love mental illness :rolleyes:
 
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I can totally relate to this, I'm fine with strangers, but not peolple I'm close to can't figure that out.
I have 2 close friends (who I met through my 4 year old daughter), and the other day 1 of them sent a msg to the other, she sent it to me instead. There was a bit in it about me and it wasn't good, not really bad either.
I cried for 6 hrs and the paranoia is back worse than ever, I think I'm going mad and am probably over reacting about the whole thing, my mood swings have got out of control, what the hell is wrong with me.
 
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Anastassia Florine

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I identify with you guys, and Messed-up, I also hate reading things from one person to another about me that aren't good. Even if they aren't bad either. But usually with me they're pretty bad things they're saying. Even though I would lose it, just to a lesser extent, if the things were not so bad, and some things that a normal person would find not so bad I find simply horrid and horrible and horrifying, because my values are different and I happen to value something they're putting down. :)
 
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Lost.Boy

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There was a bit in it about me and it wasn't good, not really bad either.
I cried for 6 hrs and the paranoia is back worse than ever, I think I'm going mad and am probably over reacting about the whole thing, my mood swings have got out of control, what the hell is wrong with me.
Kind of happened to me with a not very helpful psychologist I was once seeing. I missed 2 appointments in a row then the next week the car broke down in the morning and I called to say i'd make it if the car was repaired by then (I live quite far away from the hospital).

A few weeks later I was left in my doctors room for 5 mins with my files on the computer and on the screen I read part of a letter she had written to him saying I "had a haphazard approach to appointments" and that I booked my car into the garage and that's why I didn't turn up that week, even though the missed apps were all missed for good reason which I had explained.

It made me feel s**t and even now thinking about it upsets me that I was called a liar by someone I was expected to trust to help me get better. Since then (along with other negative experiences) i've lost nearly all trust in anyone I meet in the healhcare profession and only trust once i've got to know them properly over the course of months, not the weeks i'm usually given.
 
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edmonmom

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Hi, you sound like my nephew. Do you have a disorder that impairs you?
Bipolar runs in my family and he too does the same as you. I doubt however, that he knows what is going on. Or if he does, it's terribly frightening to admit to having it.
Have you spoken to your doctor about this? You can get some meds that will help you get out a bit.Perhaps to a support group of people who are the same as you and wish to have friends too.
 
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edmonmom

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crappy psychologists/therapists/psychiatrists

Not every pyschologist etc is wonderful. For instance, one you choose that you like and can be open with and feel comfortable with may not be the one for me.
If you are turned away by a psychiatrist, that one is DEFINITELY not for you.
I understand how hard it is to keep appointments or even just get there. That's major work and extremely difficult.
Shop around for a good psychiatrist( etc) before you commit to one. Be as up front as possible to the one you choose, letting him/her know that just showing up is a major battle for you.
 
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