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I hate people my own age

rakshasdragon

rakshasdragon

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I don't know why but I always have, at school I had about 3 main friends and thats it, they were all male friends, girls my age and younger annoy me its all makeup, boys, fashion etc I'm really not interested. And the screaming, why do girls have to screech when they meet up with each other? Shouting I'm fine with. I just find them really immature and rather not be part of it. Unfortunatly this hasn't helped me now I'm older I don't make friends easily and if anyone tries to talk to me I don't know or I don't like the look of I glare at them. I've tried not too, but its either get rid of them or not know what to talk about. Older people like my Nans age 60+ are easier to talk to and I actually enjoy it. I'm still friends with my 2 guys from school we always will be but I sometimes feel like the oddball as they're both gay and now together. Does anyone have some advice please, on how I can interact better with people.
Luna
p.s I find talking on the net easier than face to face
 
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*Sapphire*

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Hi Luna

I had the same problem. Although I do have some close female friends alot of my close friends are men, but I think it's because I prefer their conversation, they are more direct and tend not to gossip, which I like (in saying that not all women I know gossip but it is my experience that alot do!). In fact I had to have two hen dos, one for my female friends and one for my male friends!
I also have the same thing as you, many of my friends are elderly, probably for the same reasons as above, I just find their wisdom and conversation so interesting.

All I can say is if you can try not to judge people when you first meet them, hence end up glaring at them. Lots of people don't make good first impressions and it may be because they are as nervous as you are.
I get over my anxiety when meeting people by having some topics of conversations in mind and ask lots of questions. People tend to like others who listen, as it appears to be a dieing social skill these days! Ask general questions like where do you live? Have you always lived there? Are you married? Have children etc etc. General things. I have a long list that i've committed to memory for such occassions! If you keep asking questions then there is not a huge pressure to say alot of things about yourself if you are nervous. Then take things from there! I hope that helps.
 
rakshasdragon

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That helps alot Sapphire ^^ I grew up around the elderly with my nan and grandad living in a warden controlled place since about a month before i was born.

I'll try that, i do need to stop judging ppl before i talk to them, i don't base it off looks just the general feeling i get off someone but i want to start to socialise more.
Luna
 
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maudikie

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Maudikie.

Underneath y our shness I think you are fun. this shows by h smilies you;ve got on y our message. Ad I am sure your Nanand grandad are grategul of your comany. Are you sporty? It might be good to joi a sports club as there are usuall both girls and boys there and you dont have to talk much just bas a ball about or something like that/ And people will talk you after the exercise
without it getting yoo personal.(y)
 
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smile, ask questions and listen to what people say then keep asking questions. be brave join a support group.
 
PlaceboEffect

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I'm totally the same - I work in a care home and prefer the old peoples company then most people my own age. My friends are often the older co-workers who are in their 40s-50s (i'm 21). It's mainly because most people I know my age don't have the experience and wisdom I seem to, their lives are beginning while I've already been through so much.

I often wonder if I'll miss these years because I wasn't out partying and having fun like the others my age. Do you ever wonder that?
 

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