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I get angry when someone inside my house gets angry.

frisas45

frisas45

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I wish to live alone. But I have no money to do so. So I get stuck with my parents. Whenever I had a rough day, I just make someone infuriated. I feel like I'm just a brat. I have to keep my emotions to myself and don't have to express my anger. If I do, I end up getting into trouble and all sorts of mess. I can't say anything to them because they go angry.
And every morning is a pain in the ass. We get a phone call from my grandmother every morning, and my mother just goes off in anger. Every morning. I just shiver in fear that I can make it through every morning. My grandmother has a problem understanding people due to her sheer age.

My college demands me that I need a computer that is powerful enough to do assignments for my Computer Science course. But I have daily expenses to pay. And my savings of that money is slowly running out. Thankfully, one of the computer stores here in South Korea is giving a discount. So I asked my parents to buy it myself, before the money runs out. They got pissed and they are worried about moving out of this expensive house. Although my father (who lives in US) told us that he will provide the money so I can move out, but my mother is worried about the expenses; the part of Seoul I'm living in is very pricey.

I shouldn't have talked to my parents about the computer. Although I don't want any payments from them (I'm buying the PC myself), they still got angry due to the statement.
 
frisas45

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Looks like they are worried about me saving my money when we become broke after we move out.
 
R_Sxo

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Hey :)

Sorry to hear that, it sounds like a really tricky situation. I think it's natural to feel angry when someone else gets angry - from what you've said (and do let me know if I've misinterpreted), it sounds like your family is under a lot of stress at the moment - finances, educational demands, grandmother calling etc.

In that environment, we can feel more irritable and get angrier easily, so when one person gets angry, it can trigger others in that environment to get angry as well. It's not a pleasant situation, for sure! So when you say you want to live alone, perhaps part of that is because the environment at home is not a positive one.

Hopefully the situation around moving home is resolved quickly, so that side of things is dealt with. You can afford your laptop on your own, so your education can continue as normal too! As for your grandmother calling, perhaps your mother needs to find a way to respond in a calmer fashion - I know it's a difficult conversation to have, but perhaps letting her know that her angry every morning upsets the rest of you. Either she'll respond on the phone more calmly, or take the call in a place where others can't hear her?

Hope things get better soon - if you want to chat on PM or vent, do let me know, I'd be happy to :)

Much love <3
 
Zig Zag

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Hi frisas45 Can you manage to get a good second hand computer there are many available in U K I would not buy on line best to see it first Hope you are lucky :havingfun:
 
frisas45

frisas45

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Hey :)

Sorry to hear that, it sounds like a really tricky situation. I think it's natural to feel angry when someone else gets angry - from what you've said (and do let me know if I've misinterpreted), it sounds like your family is under a lot of stress at the moment - finances, educational demands, grandmother calling etc.

In that environment, we can feel more irritable and get angrier easily, so when one person gets angry, it can trigger others in that environment to get angry as well. It's not a pleasant situation, for sure! So when you say you want to live alone, perhaps part of that is because the environment at home is not a positive one.

Hopefully the situation around moving home is resolved quickly, so that side of things is dealt with. You can afford your laptop on your own, so your education can continue as normal too! As for your grandmother calling, perhaps your mother needs to find a way to respond in a calmer fashion - I know it's a difficult conversation to have, but perhaps letting her know that her angry every morning upsets the rest of you. Either she'll respond on the phone more calmly, or take the call in a place where others can't hear her?

Hope things get better soon - if you want to chat on PM or vent, do let me know, I'd be happy to :)

Much love <3
You see, if I buy my computer sooner than my 3rd year of college (I'm on my first year) I'll have nothing left. And they can't pay me to have allowances until the problem is resolved!
 
frisas45

frisas45

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Hi frisas45 Can you manage to get a good second hand computer there are many available in U K I would not buy on line best to see it first Hope you are lucky :havingfun:
Second hand computers are not in good conditions in Korea. :( I have to buy it new...
 
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