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I'm a female in my early 20s and already a failure. I've been at uni for 3 years and failing my course, I have no motivation for it and anything else in life. I'm so scared to tell my parents that Ive used their money for nothing. I struggled with depression in year 9 (13),never told them and dealt with it. My depression got worse at uni first year, I started drinking constantly (blacking out) and self harming by injuring myself. I've never been scared of death, and recently have been having lots of suicidal thoughts as I honestly have no reason why I should be here. I just honestly don't know what to do anymore and I'm so scared to disappoint my family and friends.
 
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I'm sorry you're feeling so low, I hope things improve for you soon. It may help to have a look at these two pages on the forum: Suicidal Crisis and Mental Health Forum - Getting Help about what to do if you're feeling suicidal, or if you need emergency help. I hope you can use the forum for support during this difficult time.

If you’re thinking about suicide and are in immediate danger, please call your local emergency number (i.e. in the UK call 999, in the USA or Canada call 911, in Australia call 000 and in New Zealand call 111) or call the international emergency number of 112.

If you have been affected by the contents of this thread and would like to speak to someone about your feelings you can call one of the following helplines:

In the UK and Ireland, the Samaritans can be contacted on 116 123.
In the US, the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is 1-800-273-8255.
In Canada, the Suicide Prevention Service on 1.833.456.4566.
In Australia, the crisis support service Lifeline is on 13 11 14.
In New Zealand, the Need to Talk service is on 1737 or 080017371737.
Other international helplines can be found at www.befrienders.org
 
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You won't disappoint them, you are unwell, you need looking after.
 
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People get ill, so many different illnesses and depression is just one of them. It is such a bad one because you cannot see it and nobody can see it, unless they look hard, are familiar with it.

Have you spoken to your doctor?

You can always take a year out, or take a briefer time off to get better.

You WILL get better.

If your parents are like mine, they will say:
'it's only money, you are what is important'
 
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It will do you good to tell your parents because they need to know. What you are in is temporary. There will be better days for you.

Music helps me. Music is therapeutic. Listen to good, uplifting and encouraging music on youtube.

Also, do what you love doing or what you are good at. It will do good to you and make you happy.
 
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I'm a female in my early 20s and already a failure. I've been at uni for 3 years and failing my course, I have no motivation for it and anything else in life. I'm so scared to tell my parents that Ive used their money for nothing. I struggled with depression in year 9 (13),never told them and dealt with it. My depression got worse at uni first year, I started drinking constantly (blacking out) and self harming by injuring myself. I've never been scared of death, and recently have been having lots of suicidal thoughts as I honestly have no reason why I should be here. I just honestly don't know what to do anymore and I'm so scared to disappoint my family and friends.
suicide is never the answer, and as you said you dont want to hurt your family, and trust me suicide would destroy them......and remember that depression does pass, you will get better, i used to suffer severely from depression and thought i would never get better but i did and you wiill too

also i used to attend uni but i dropped out twice, i was having mental health issues and social anxiety....personally i don t beleive much in the college system....as i saiid i dropped out twice.

anyway, if you attend therapy you will get some help
 
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as regards college fees, i was able to get a refund by getting my GP to give me a sick cert....considering you have depression, that should allow you get a refund.....personally i found the uni i attended very understanding....im sure it will be the same at yours
 
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