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I feel like I must take photos/videos of everything important in my life

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Mike91

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I feel like I must take photos/videos of everything important in my life

Hi guys,

I'm 25 years old and I'm having a problem for some time. Basically, I feel like I've to take photos/videos of all the important things in my life. It's became an obsession.

Especially everything that has to do with my girlfriend (we've been together for a year), I wants to take photos of it.

If she says to me something nice, I obsess myself because I haven't record it. If we're watching a movie together at home, hugging each other, I want to take a picture to remember that moment. If we have great sex, I wish I could record that moment. The list is endless.

When I miss the opportunity to take the picture of something I want, I don't feel well. I think about it for days/weeks and it's creating problems with my day-to-day life and overall happiness.

What can I do?

I think it's fine to take pictures/videos sometimes to remember something, but it's becoming a problem for me and I'm giving more value to that than the actual real moment.

Thank you!
 
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Hi Mike. I was a photographer until I put the camera down seven years ago. I stopped because there wasn't anything new to photograph. Everything has already been photographed. My photography was a hobby and my photo's were art.

Trying to capture every moment is another thing. There have been many occasions where I wanted to be in the moment with my companions and I purposely left my camera home. You are quite right that you have crossed the line into the land of obsession. You aren't creating art. You are trying to hang onto your life as the moments slip away.

Yes, when I was young I had many conversations that were incredible and afterwards I thought that I should have recorded the conversation. It's just a thought. You don't have to act on it. When I had babies, the sounds they made were so wonderful, I actually did record the baby noises. And who wants this recording now ???

I photographed all my children growing up. Now they are grateful for these photos as I have scanned them and put them on a separate flash drive for each son. If you can channel your photography into a specific project maybe you can focus that obsessive nature.

Or you could put the camera down for a month and not use it at all.
 
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Thanks for your reply.

I'm actually grateful to have photos/videos of important moments. Sometimes I look back at old photos of me and my girlfriend and they moves me emotionally. It's a nice feeling.

I do want to keep them all (storage space is so cheap those days), but I'll create a gallery with the most beautiful one and probably print a few.

I'm just finding to be a problem the fact that not taking photos or videos of certain things leads me to be depressed and obsessed. I'm not feeling well and it does have a negative impact on my life.

The way I experience life is very intense and I find beauty in everything, but I guess I'm crossing a line here.

P.S. I'm curious to look at your photos, if you've some online. :) I'm doing photography as a hobby for many years as well. Not that I feel I'm good at it, but I love photography.
 
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This topic was of particular interest for me because I have had exactly the same problems for some time to the point where I photographed and videoed mostly me but all kinds of subject matters besides and it was like almost everything that I did had to be captured. I wondered if there was a particular name for this obsessive behaviour but what it has shown me is that I have a compulsion for purchasing gadgetry. Even today I have just spent £200 on filter coffee machine and equipment that I don't need really but I feel so much better having something brand new and I know that I have issues with repeat patterns of behaviour which may have something to do with high-functioning autism that I have. Either way, it is a comfort to know that it is not just me who has this type of issue.
 
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Mike, wanting to record everything is different from wanting to get a perfect photo to put on the wall. It sounds like an extreme form of attachment.

I have photos on my facebook but I'm sorry, I don't wish to share them because I want to maintain the anonymous nature of this forum. Try to understand what I said to you above because it is only by understanding the reason for your obsession that you will be free of it.
 
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The reason I think is because I've an inner fear of losing my girlfriend.

I've never took that much pictures before knowing her, and now that I think about it, the only picture/video I absolutely want to take and that I regret if I don't take, are the ones with me and her (or just her). I don't have this kind of attachment for anything else in my life.

What should I do?

Thank you!
 
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i took pics and vids of everything when my kids were babies and heres what happened:

1. the kids grew up believing i wasn't home and dad did all the fun stuff (i was behind the camera duh)
2. the kids took it all to their dads anyway. or their dads girlfriends, or whoevers.

so here i am after a decade of studiously recording everything, with only my Memories.

and they are the Best Part anyway, they haven't faded a bit.
 
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The reason I think is because I've an inner fear of losing my girlfriend.

I've never took that much pictures before knowing her, and now that I think about it, the only picture/video I absolutely want to take and that I regret if I don't take, are the ones with me and her (or just her). I don't have this kind of attachment for anything else in my life.

What should I do?

Thank you!
Well that's great !! Good job isolating the motivation; the thing you fear. excellent. Now you have to decide whether to continue catering to this or try to break free by NOT doing it on some occasions and having to sit with the uncomfortable feeling(s).

How long do you know your girlfriend ?? Can you talk to her about this just like we have here ??
 
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Hi Mike,

It sounds like you're really not taking any moment for granted with your girlfriend, which sounds really lovely in a lot of ways, but if it's causing you problems as you say, maybe do have a chat with her about your fears like PoopyDoll said, or write them down first.

It might be that you could make a little yes and no list of things to take pictures/videos of and things to not, just so that you can begin to break away from the habit and feel more comfortable about it because it's not one of the things on the list.


I just felt I had to comment as I have had very strong attachments, and fear of losing, and it's such an intense feeling and thought process. At times, not very healthy, as I needed to be my own person too, rather than everything revolve around my loved one. Now I'm on my own, and all that love that I had given and built up around someone has gone with them, there's none left for me, so I'm in the process of building that now....better late than never!! :clap:

I hope you can love yourself and view yourself of worth in the same way that you do your girlfriend.

Best wishes (y)

keep us posted how you get on.
 
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