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I Drove Someone To Suicide/Extreme Guilt Of A Murderer

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:sorry::panic: I'm ashamed to admit this and am too scared to tell my therapist. But I think I drove a very depressed man to commit suicide. I can't go into details for forum rules. But he was very depressed and had a crush on me. He gave me his number and asked me to call him. I never did. He would compliment me on my strength, intelligence, and kindness. But I am neither of those. He always talked about how lonely and depressed he was. His parents passed away. His children disowned him. He had no friends in person. He said that he wished someone would call him. Then I had a falling out with him. He said something really mysoginist which made me feel even more inferior to men. In self defense I told him off. He looked so depressed and hurried out of the room like he didn't want to be caught crying. Then he died later that day, about only an hour after I told him off. I can't help but feel I'm responsible for his death. I was the last straw that made him kill himself. In a sense I killed a man. I feel so very guilty. Others have guilt but not the guilt of murder like me. I am so guilty. I wish I wouldn't have told him off. I can't ever forgive myself. I hope he okay in the after life. I just may go to Hell for this.
 
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If your responsible for his death then I'm responsible for my online friend from a forum i was on years ago who committed suicide cause i wasnt online the night she decided to end it all :cry:

its not murder or manslaughter though, you didnt physically hand him whatever he used and help him do that to himself :hug:
 
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If your responsible for his death then I'm responsible for my online friend from a forum i was on years ago who committed suicide cause i wasnt online the night she decided to end it all :cry:

its not murder or manslaughter though, you didnt physically hand him whatever he used and help him do that to himself :hug:
Are you being sarcastic? I don't appreciate that. I am really legitimately tormented by this! And you mock that poor man's death? You make light of my torment? You are getting ignored I can't believe you would treat someone like that on a mental health forum. Take your fake hug back. I've been suicidal because of this!!!
 
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Are you being sarcastic? I don't appreciate that. I am really legitimately tormented by this! And you mock that poor man's death? You make light of my torment? You are getting ignored I can't believe you would treat someone like that on a mental health forum. Take your fake hug back. I've been suicidal because of this!!!
no i was being serious :sorry: i was tormented for a long time by my friend's suicide and the guilt from that, i was trying to help you feel better :sorry:

i am not making light of anything :sorry:

and ignore is a trigger for me i'll leave this thread now :sorry:
 
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:sorry::panic: I'm ashamed to admit this and am too scared to tell my therapist. But I think I drove a very depressed man to commit suicide. I can't go into details for forum rules. But he was very depressed and had a crush on me. He gave me his number and asked me to call him. I never did. He would compliment me on my strength, intelligence, and kindness. But I am neither of those. He always talked about how lonely and depressed he was. His parents passed away. His children disowned him. He had no friends in person. He said that he wished someone would call him. Then I had a falling out with him. He said something really mysoginist which made me feel even more inferior to men. In self defense I told him off. He looked so depressed and hurried out of the room like he didn't want to be caught crying. Then he died later that day, about only an hour after I told him off. I can't help but feel I'm responsible for his death. I was the last straw that made him kill himself. In a sense I killed a man. I feel so very guilty. Others have guilt but not the guilt of murder like me. I am so guilty. I wish I wouldn't have told him off. I can't ever forgive myself. I hope he okay in the after life. I just may go to Hell for this.
This is not your fault in any way, shape or form.

You are not responsible for his thoughts or his actions.

This man was depressed BEFORE he met you and developed a crush on you.

People do not ordinarily commit suicide because of an argument or a 'telling off' for saying something inappropriate. There is absolutely no point blaming yourself - his isolation, bereavements and enstrangement from his children were all contributing to a precarious mental state.

You are not to blame in any way and you must get this straight in your head. :hug:
 
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Are you being sarcastic? I don't appreciate that. I am really legitimately tormented by this! And you mock that poor man's death? You make light of my torment? You are getting ignored I can't believe you would treat someone like that on a mental health forum. Take your fake hug back. I've been suicidal because of this!!!
Can I just explain in Midnight's defence (because I know how much it tormented her) that she was guilt-ridden over losing a very close friend because she wasn't online to respond to her friend's desperate message. She has blamed herself for a long time and it hurt her deeply.

No sarcasm or lightness to her message, I assure you - Midnight was drawing on her own painful experience.
 
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This is not your fault in any way, shape or form.

You are not responsible for his thoughts or his actions.

This man was depressed BEFORE he met you and developed a crush on you.

People do not ordinarily commit suicide because of an argument or a 'telling off' for saying something inappropriate. There is absolutely no point blaming yourself - his isolation, bereavements and enstrangement from his children were all contributing to a precarious mental state.

You are not to blame in any way and you must get this straight in your head. :hug:
Thank you. I'm trying to forgive myself but I can't. I wasn't leading him on or anything. But I didn't want to be rude to him either. I just only seem to hurt people and burn Bridges. Too bad none of my suicide attempts worked. 🤗
 
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Can I just explain in Midnight's defence (because I know how much it tormented her) that she was guilt-ridden over losing a very close friend because she wasn't online to respond to her friend's desperate message. She has blamed herself for a long time and it hurt her deeply.

No sarcasm or lightness to her message, I assure you - Midnight was drawing on her own painful experience.
Oops. Thanks for clarifying.
 
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:sorry::panic: I'm ashamed to admit this and am too scared to tell my therapist. But I think I drove a very depressed man to commit suicide.
Forgive yourself for whatever you said and be kind to yourself. Unless you actually intended to kill him, you can't really be sure that you are responsible in any way.
 
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Forgive yourself for whatever you said and be kind to yourself. Unless you actually intended to kill him, you can't really be sure that you are responsible in any way.
I never wanted him to commit suicide. I never thought he would.
 
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Thank you. I'm trying to forgive myself but I can't. I wasn't leading him on or anything. But I didn't want to be rude to him either. I just only seem to hurt people and burn Bridges. Too bad none of my suicide attempts worked. 🤗
There is nothing to forgive.

Sadly, you encountered this man at the lowest point of his life - in his eyes, he had lost everything and was deeply depressed.

You could not have held his head above water - only he could do that for himself.

I will not be emotionally blackmailed by anybody. I will walk away from anyone who tries to make me responsible for their thoughts and behaviour. I feel sure that regardless of how kind and understanding you had been to this man - the outcome would have been the same. You were not his saviour and no amount of involvement with him would have fixed the hurt from his past or made him any more emotionally stable.

It is very tragic that he ended his life - but it happens. There was nothing you could have done xxx
 
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Oops. Thanks for clarifying.
Midnight is the most compassionate, loving person you'll meet here. She was trying to help you. We have all told her that she can not feel guilty over not picking up that message from her friend. She still does, and knows exactly how you feel. x
 
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no i was being serious :sorry: i was tormented for a long time by my friend's suicide and the guilt from that, i was trying to help you feel better :sorry:

i am not making light of anything :sorry:

and ignore is a trigger for me i'll leave this thread now :sorry:
Sorry Midnightphoenix. I misunderstood again. I hope you can forgive me. :peace:
 
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Wait are both of you pulling my leg or am I being paranoid again? Geez am I gaslighting myself? :confused:
 
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