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Yes, so my day consists in waking up, eating, going to the bathroom, falling asleep.

And that's it, I don't really want to do anything else. Everything else is a drag, sometimes waking up is a drag too. Even I cannot stand my "lifestyle" as boring as it is but at the same time I don't care about changing it as it is a drag too. Apparently that is related to low dopamine levels or something like that, it could be "Dopamine overcharge" or something like that but I doubt it.

How do I get the motivation to do stuff?
 
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Are you taking antipsychotics? I think they reduce dopamine don't they?
If an antidepressant, and you are still unmotivated, perhaps you are still a bit depressed?

Sunshine, exercise, good food, give you a boost. My auntie would take berocca, it is not really my thing but it is another way of getting us going.

Sunlight, without it, i don't get moving. It is powerful.
Exercise, without it, i cannot keep going and end up back in bed.

Getting up and out for a walk early is a good idea. I would end up on my 600lb life if i didn't do that. At home all i do is eat and doze.
 
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I understand what you are saying. Motivation is hard. I have trouble eating because I just can’t be bothered to eat.

Please don’t take this as judgment but you gotta dig deep and get moving around. It will get easier eventually. I have been back at work for a year now and the motivation struggle is still very real to me. I consider it a self care issue for myself - to keep moving around.

I decided last weekend that I will buy clothing every week from now on. For two reasons, my clothes are old and worn out, and I need to get out and do stuff. So every weekend I’m going to buy something. Even if its just a pair of socks.

If you resist going outside, move around your home. Have a shower. Set a timer and clean something for 10 minutes without stopping.
 
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I don't take any kind of medication, that requires money I don't have. But I ate a piece of chocolate cake yesterday, it was really good. It gave me nightmares though.

I don't like the sun, it is hot and exposure to it leaves negative cultural effects I am not willing to discuss here. I used to workout but when after months I was still the same toothpick I've always have been, I stopped, what's the point.
 
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Yes, so my day consists in waking up, eating, going to the bathroom, falling asleep.

And that's it, I don't really want to do anything else. Everything else is a drag, sometimes waking up is a drag too. Even I cannot stand my "lifestyle" as boring as it is but at the same time I don't care about changing it as it is a drag too. Apparently that is related to low dopamine levels or something like that, it could be "Dopamine overcharge" or something like that but I doubt it.

How do I get the motivation to do stuff?
I also have low motivation to do or change anything. I take antipsychotics though and that gives me low dopamine Wich is like you said responsible for the lack of motivation. I also have anhedonia Wich is frustrating, not feeling anything sucks. I hope that you can break your struggle, good luck 🍀
 
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I understand what you are saying. Motivation is hard. I have trouble eating because I just can’t be bothered to eat.

Please don’t take this as judgment but you gotta dig deep and get moving around. It will get easier eventually. I have been back at work for a year now and the motivation struggle is still very real to me. I consider it a self care issue for myself - to keep moving around.

I decided last weekend that I will buy clothing every week from now on. For two reasons, my clothes are old and worn out, and I need to get out and do stuff. So every weekend I’m going to buy something. Even if its just a pair of socks.

If you resist going outside, move around your home. Have a shower. Set a timer and clean something for 10 minutes without stopping.
I did forced myself to do stuff for a month, I thought that was enough time to make the things I did durning that month into a habit. When the month ended I dropped it because I don't really care. And the worst part is that I was doing stuff I think I liked doing, I just saw no results or improvement of any kind and dropped it.
 
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I did forced myself to do stuff for a month, I thought that was enough time to make the things I did durning that month into a habit. When the month ended I dropped it because I don't really care. And the worst part is that I was doing stuff I think I liked doing, I just saw no results or improvement of any kind and dropped it.
I totally get it. I have many fun projects half done because I just can’t find the ‘want’ to do anything. Constantly being numb is problem. The numb becomes comforting, and easy to continue.

I struggle with this a lot myself. Its too easy to be judged as lazy, by myself and others. It makes you isolate and that slowly makes it all worse.
 
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I totally get it. I have many fun projects half done because I just can’t find the ‘want’ to do anything. Constantly being numb is problem. The numb becomes comforting, and easy to continue.

I struggle with this a lot myself. Its too easy to be judged as lazy, by myself and others. It makes you isolate and that slowly makes it all worse.
Numbness is a good word to sumerize it.
 
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I agree with this. I finished my education because I had to do it, not because I wanted to.

That's not what it really means to say. The "spark" people sit around, or lie around, and wait for will never come...it isn't coming to them. Some have waited decades hoping that the spark will one day visit them and they'll get up and do. I found out, decades ago, what the spark really is...and stopped looking for what it really isn't. The getting up and doing something IS THE SPARK!

Once the something is done, there's a strong chance that the person will wish to remain out of their chair and do something else. I mean that, to encourage your mental insides to do things that need to be done (housework is a perfect example), the spark is that moment when you get up, and the result is an opportunity for your mind to sample BEING up and DOING the something. Sometimes, from there, the wish to remain on your feet, and doing things, begins, and often surprises the person, a great deal.

Sometimes, you must (get up and) do...to want to keep getting up and doing!
 
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That's not what it really means to say. The "spark" people sit around, or lie around, and wait for will never come...it isn't coming to them. Some have waited decades hoping that the spark will one day visit them and they'll get up and do. I found out, decades ago, what the spark really is...and stopped looking for what it really isn't. The getting up and doing something IS THE SPARK!

Once the something is done, there's a strong chance that the person will wish to remain out of their chair and do something else. I mean that, to encourage your mental insides to do things that need to be done (housework is a perfect example), the spark is that moment when you get up, and the result is an opportunity for your mind to sample BEING up and DOING the something. Sometimes, from there, the wish to remain on your feet, and doing things, begins, and often surprises the person, a great deal.

Sometimes, you must (get up and) do...to want to keep getting up and doing!
This happens to me but in short bursts. There is something I would like to do, I start it and finish it, and then all the steam is gone and I cannot even force myself to continue. But I understand your point.
 
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Yes, so my day consists in waking up, eating, going to the bathroom, falling asleep.

And that's it, I don't really want to do anything else. Everything else is a drag, sometimes waking up is a drag too. Even I cannot stand my "lifestyle" as boring as it is but at the same time I don't care about changing it as it is a drag too. Apparently that is related to low dopamine levels or something like that, it could be "Dopamine overcharge" or something like that but I doubt it.

How do I get the motivation to do stuff?
I know how you feel. I call it "doing things" and I don't like doing things
 
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