I don't want a job, but it's what people have to do.

[Sapphirepenguin9900]

I have never had job since leaving college 1.5 years ago. Apart from some part time fulfillment for a week last year. The thing is I don't even want a job but that's life, I need money. I don't want to work 9-5 everyday, It sounds exhausting. I get tired just getting up some days. There is no jobs that look enjoyable either, they all sound horrible. I'll hate whatever I find.

My family hate me for not having a job, they keep telling me "get any job". I don't want to work in retail. I'm smart, have 8 GCSEs and a university degree. I have social anxiety too though, its better now but makes things hard. I'm just tired all the time and I can't sleep if I know I have to get up early. My family keep saying "once you have a job you will be so tired you will sleep" but no I won't I'm tired now and I don't sleep. If I'm anxious about sleeping then I just won't sleep no matter how exhausted I am.

I'm getting help from a local charity for people with disabilities and mental health issues. They get to know you and help you find a job that suits you. The waiting list is 5 months though and I'm still 2 months away for getting appointed someone. I go every two weeks at the moment to a club where they help me with my CV and I do online courses to add to it. It's still not good enough for my family though they say its taking too long, and I should just find a job myself. I get £80 a week in benefit so I have money to contribute but my family don't want any. Just feel like I have hit a dead end in life and I won't be capable of working.

 

[jajingna]

Hi, I can relate a bit. I'd like to work but haven't in years. Used to teach overseas, would like to go back to that to get on my own again. I'm getting old too. Have social anxiety issues as well that can causes problems. Like, you're supposed to be communicative at most jobs, seems that extroverted people have some advantage there. Even just "hey how's it going" and regular small talk can help you along even if you gotta force it sometimes. I'm probably better one-on-one talking. But yeah, a lot of jobs do suck, service industry, retail, or whatever, dealing with customers or crappy bosses, can be high stress too for low wages.

 

[Sapphirepenguin9900]

Hi, I can relate a bit. I'd like to work but haven't in years. Used to teach overseas, would like to go back to that to get on my own again. I'm getting old too. Have social anxiety issues as well that can causes problems. Like, you're supposed to be communicative at most jobs, seems that extroverted people have some advantage there. Even just "hey how's it going" and regular small talk can help you along even if you gotta force it sometimes. I'm probably better one-on-one talking. But yeah, a lot of jobs do suck, service industry, retail, or whatever, dealing with customers or crappy bosses, can be high stress too for low wages.

That's the problem, most jobs around here are either retail or office jobs. Retail sounds too socially demanding and I can't imagine coping with sitting in an office 9-5 everyday, it sounds like torture.

 

[JeanPierre]

Most importantly you will establish connections for better jobs, positions.
That has been my experience anyway. Hope it helps. Big hug.

 

[Blue Opal]

I can so relate to this!

I'm just tired all the time and I can't sleep if I know I have to get up early.

This! Even if it's something nice I'm doing the next day I will still have a bad night.

I've given up on getting a job after 17 years of unemployment and volunteer work. I can't even do the latter, not even when I don't have to get up early. I don't like anything either.
It's hard. When you're still young, even harder I imagine. The pressure from family is horrible.
I'm sorry you're dealing with this.
I hope the local charity workers can help you to find something you like. Maybe do a test to see if there's any employment that you like?

 

[Sapphirepenguin9900]

I can so relate to this!



This! Even if it's something nice I'm doing the next day I will still have a bad night.

I've given up on getting a job after 17 years of unemployment and volunteer work. I can't even do the latter, not even when I don't have to get up early. I don't like anything either.
It's hard. When you're still young, even harder I imagine. The pressure from family is horrible.
I'm sorry you're dealing with this.
I hope the local charity workers can help you to find something you like. Maybe do a test to see if there's any employment that you like?

yeah they have test but a lot of the things that come up as something I would like aren't jobs in my area lol.

 

[Blue Opal]

I get it. I took such a test and the man who did the test with me was very surprised that there was nothing I liked. He said, "I can't help you find a job if there's nothing you like. You'll just get depressed again." Honestly, I got depressed from those test results to begin with.

 

[zula77]

I relate to this. I'm only now for the first time in a job where I even feel slightly comfortable, and working from home has been a real relief from the social perspective. There are jobs out there suited for introverted people and you will find one, when the time is right

 

[midnightphoenix]

Some areas are better than others for finding work in, i was lucky where i live now

(high unemployment area about 3 years before my place of work opened up, allowing some of us long term unemployed to actually get into a job)

 

[Blackwolf]

I relate so much to this. I have worked in a pet store for half a year 15-16 days a month for 11h a day. The money was really bad but I liked it because of animals. Taking care of them gave me pleasure. But I quit because beside that cleaning cages took me whole 11h once per week, that was hard and I had to move stones for aquariums upstairs, sometimes it was like 2000kg a day and for that little money I thought it was too much. Then I studied Swedish philology and actually I was very good at it but after half a year I had to quit because of my mental state. Then I had worked in a warehouse and it was a pain in the ass. One week 6:00-14:00 and next 14:00-22:00. It was with car parts, so I had to lift a lot. Back pain was killing me many times. I was exhausted. People there were toxic. I had to call in sick few days a month to prevent my mental state going down and after 5-6 months they fired me. I'm quite angry, because I know I'm not stupid and I could have finished university but my mental state prevents me. And any time I try jobs that don't require any degree it proves that I can't do them in a long run. Now I'm jobless and don't know what to do with myself. What job should I seek for. I have no idea what to do

 

[midnightphoenix]

I relate so much to this. I have worked in a pet store for half a year 15-16 days a month for 11h a day. The money was really bad but I liked it because of animals. Taking care of them gave me pleasure. But I quit because beside that cleaning cages took me whole 11h once per week, that was hard and I had to move stones for aquariums upstairs, sometimes it was like 2000kg a day and for that little money I thought it was too much. Then I studied Swedish philology and actually I was very good at it but after half a year I had to quit because of my mental state. Then I had worked in a warehouse and it was a pain in the ass. One week 6:00-14:00 and next 14:00-22:00. It was with car parts, so I had to lift a lot. Back pain was killing me many times. I was exhausted. People there were toxic. I had to call in sick few days a month to prevent my mental state going down and after 5-6 months they fired me. I'm quite angry, because I know I'm not stupid and I could have finished university but my mental state prevents me. And any time I try jobs that don't require any degree it proves that I can't do them in a long run. Now I'm jobless and don't know what to do with myself. What job should I seek for. I have no idea what to do

Would admin type work be suitable? Sat typing on a computer and answering the phone?

 

[JeanPierre]

"You have to start somewhere"
You may even like it.
Money, any money, will give you freedom from your family
and time away from them.
You may meet friends.
Come on. It's true. It's what people do.

 

[Blackwolf]

Would admin type work be suitable? Sat typing on a computer and answering the phone?

I think it would be. But as I looked through job offers I saw only call centers where you have to "force sell" stuff. My colleague worked in something like that and they forced him to trick old people.
I'm generally scared of starting new jobs. Im always very suspicious and I have a thought they would use me or something. My only skills are that I can somehow speak English, native Polish and have basic knowledge of Photoshop. I was sending cv's to places when you don't need a degree and I haven't received a single phone call for a month now.

 

[Sapphirepenguin9900]

I think it would be. But as I looked through job offers I saw only call centers where you have to "force sell" stuff. My colleague worked in something like that and they forced him to trick old people.
I'm generally scared of starting new jobs. Im always very suspicious and I have a thought they would use me or something. My only skills are that I can somehow speak English, native Polish and have basic knowledge of Photoshop. I was sending cv's to places when you don't need a degree and I haven't received a single phone call for a month now.

have you tried something like fulfillment work? I worked for an online personalized card place (won't say which one) for a while and although it was sort of like a factory it wasn't too pressured and was somewhat enjoyable.

 

[Blackwolf]

have you tried something like fulfillment work? I worked for an online personalized card place (won't say which one) for a while and although it was sort of like a factory it wasn't too pressured and was somewhat enjoyable.

Do you mean something like completing orders for online clients then packing it and sending?
I can't find a translation for fulfillment work xd