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So I am 19 years old and living at home due to corona-virus as my Uni has shut. Something that happens at home a lot is my dad will shout so loudly you genuinely don't know if you are safe and he will hit you- normally on your hands or bum with his flat palm. Sometimes with things he has to hand but not as often.
I have two younger siblings a brother and sister- and live with mum too- today my brother was in a mood and got himself in trouble with my dad who is incredibly controlling and generally rude. My brother is 13 and has not learnt how to hold his tongue when my dad is being an arse so he got in a lot of trouble. He got himself worked up and upset and the stress gave him a migraine- a really bad one- I also suffer really badly from these so know how painful they are.
My brother is in agony and my dad is continuing to make him work in the garage without medication while still shouting at him very loudly and hitting him on the head- as well as being shouted at for crying because he is in so much pain.
Because he cried because of how much pain he is in he has had his phone and laptop taken away- BECAUSE HE CRIED IN AGONY.
I am absolutely furious and have nothing I can do- apologies for the rant but I do not know what to do and want him dead to be honest
 
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So sorry to hear this.

Where's mum in all this? Is Dad the only parent?
 
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So sorry to hear this.

Where's mum in all this? Is Dad the only parent?
Mum is around but always makes excuses for my dad and often is too afraid or 'in love' to do anything about it. He very very rarely acts out on her its just us kids that get this so I dont understand why she doesn't stand up for us
 
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Mum is around but always makes excuses for my dad and often is too afraid or 'in love' to do anything about it. He very very rarely acts out on her its just us kids that get this so I dont understand why she doesn't stand up for us
Is mum afraid of him too, d'you think?
 
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So I am 19 years old and living at home due to corona-virus as my Uni has shut. Something that happens at home a lot is my dad will shout so loudly you genuinely don't know if you are safe and he will hit you- normally on your hands or bum with his flat palm. Sometimes with things he has to hand but not as often.
I have two younger siblings a brother and sister- and live with mum too- today my brother was in a mood and got himself in trouble with my dad who is incredibly controlling and generally rude. My brother is 13 and has not learnt how to hold his tongue when my dad is being an arse so he got in a lot of trouble. He got himself worked up and upset and the stress gave him a migraine- a really bad one- I also suffer really badly from these so know how painful they are.
My brother is in agony and my dad is continuing to make him work in the garage without medication while still shouting at him very loudly and hitting him on the head- as well as being shouted at for crying because he is in so much pain.
Because he cried because of how much pain he is in he has had his phone and laptop taken away- BECAUSE HE CRIED IN AGONY.
I am absolutely furious and have nothing I can do- apologies for the rant but I do not know what to do and want him dead to be honest
That’s awful what painful and frustrating circumstances to endure. :hug:
 
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Unknown, your Dad's behaviour is not acceptable.

I don't know if you've ever tried to have a serious talk with your mum about it but that would be a starting point. You need to remind mum that Social Services would view this as abuse...that Schools will make interventions if they were aware how he was behaving.

PLEASE don't forget that you have that power. You can talk to Child Line...or to a tutor at college if your mum really won't listen and get dad under control. Your brother can confide in a teacher. They listen and help.

It sounds as if dad has anger issues that he needs help with. Your mum needs to support him through that and most importantly, she needs to protect you.

I think you need to comfort your brother as soon as you can. Ask mum for medication for his migraine and pick the right moment talk to mum alone.

You need to be strong and very clear when you talk to her - explain that if she doesn't do something to stop this, then you will.

You do not have to put up with being hit or shouted at. Nobody does. Please, please know that we are here for you on this forum and support you 100% xxx
 
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