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I don't know what to do about my ex who has BPD

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Podgal35

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Hey,

I have an ex partner and we have had on off relationship for past 5-6 years. Except once he has been the person to initiate contact and wanting to get back together. Very intense, wanting to marry me but then regressed.

I however got in contact recently and our contact has been on and off, varying in intensity. I had declared I was not over him and hadn't moved on. I always felt his previous behaviour was never him and it was if he was someone else and recently he felt he may have BPD (not officially diagnosed). I asked him if there was ever a possibility of us getting back together. He said he will answer but didn't want to give a hasty response. A week + later I have not had an answer and also no contact from him in past 24 hours.

I have read some stuff about BPD and want to know more so I can be understanding. But I wonder if I should wait any longer for a response?

My instant reaction is to think no answer is your answer but I also have part of my mind that says don't jump to conclusions. I'm So confused
 
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BPD or not, it's best to have THEM chasing you instead of the other way around. Just basing this on experience.
If they don't, walk away. You'll save yourself a lot of heartache.
 
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