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I don't know if I can handle Thanksgiving

DanL15000

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So I already said I would go to my Nephew's where I would be around he and his husband and three of their friends.

I've got a build up of anxiety from three of 'em already because of the way I feel they behave towards me.

Right or wrong, illness or not, I can't help the way I feel.

I keep daring myself to show up and reminding myself that at the first sign of me being the butt of a joke or the bully of them taking a pot shot at me I can always come home.

But if that is how I already feel, why go at all?

Everyone seems to think I have to come out of my anxieties and suddenly be like them.

I was doing great until I got this therapist and suddenly people started pushing me. Not doing so great now.
 
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Can you arrive before dinner, take a quiz card/book game with you to prevent chat, then wash up help and leave?

2 hours
not long
buy a nice outfit
nice to dress up
hair cut
nice food
forget the people
 
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Sometimes focusing on how you can help them helps. Questions for them, how are they, work, family, health?
 
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Canadian Thanksgiving lacks the family trauma and drama of the American copy.
 
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If you don't want to go then don't go, just say that with everything going on you're just too exhausted and prefer to spend it alone. What is the point if you're not trying to face the anxiety, you'll just be miserable and possibly ruin the mood because of it.

Also, you know, there's a pandemic going on... Are people just going to casually congregate in doors?
 
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If you don't want to go then don't go, just say that with everything going on you're just too exhausted and prefer to spend it alone. What is the point if you're not trying to face the anxiety, you'll just be miserable and possibly ruin the mood because of it.

Also, you know, there's a pandemic going on... Are people just going to casually congregate in doors?
Bingo! "....you'll just be miserable and possibly ruin the mood because of it."

That's right! I'm not going.

Yeah, they had this idea that everybody get tested beforehand. Like that worked for Trump. The tests are negative until enough of the virus builds up to test positive. It's not a sure thing.
 
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