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I don't know how to get my friend to stop saying they love me.

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I know he means it as friends, and I do say it back sometimes, but he says it to me every fuckin time we talk and I don't know how to ask him to stop. Like he's one of my best friends but good christ please stop. It's excessive and while I can express how much he means to me too, I am not a touchy feely person who talks about feelings all the time, and I'm not really intimate with...... anyone. I don't like intimacy. I've basically started not saying it back at all but he will still say it.
 
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Could you send him a message saying ' I really appreciate you love me but please do not say it to me any more as it triggers me for personal reasons'?
 
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Could you send him a message saying ' I really appreciate you love me but please do not say it to me any more as it triggers me for personal reasons'?
yeah i could say that, but i am definitely nervous about asking him not to say it anymore because i dont want to hurt him
 
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I can understand you do not want to hurt him. You could add that too. Say you do not mean to hurt him. I feel you really need to say something because it is upsetting you.
 
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I can understand you do not want to hurt him. You could add that too. Say you do not mean to hurt him. I feel you really need to say something because it is upsetting you.
yeah i think you're right. ill try to just be kind about it. thank you
 
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