I don’t trust anyone...

[elliepaige20]

I’m in such a bad place at the moment and I don’t know what to do. It took me so long to overcome my trust issues but now things are so bad again. I feel like everyone around me is untrustworthy and has an ulterior motive and it honestly terrifies me, because I truly value my friendships and I feel like I’m either going to ruin them with my trust issues or they’re going to hurt me in some way. Someone put an idea in my head the other day about one of my friends possibly seeing my ex and it’s been on my mind ever since. There’s no real reason to think they are doing anything behind my back it was more of a joke someone made, but now it’s all I can think about. I have a real problem opening up to people because I feel like they use that against me; like they know I’m vulnerable and therefore my weak spots. My self esteem is completely rock bottom at the moment, and I just want all the madness to stop. I’m on medication but I don’t think it’s working much anymore. My brain won’t shut up and my sleeping pattern is awful. I’m just at a loss with everything

 

[Talina]

The joke they said was a bit insensitive comment. It’s hard handling trustissues with people.

It would be good to talk with your friends about you getting uncomfortable. We all interpreter things differently and by not telling your friend that what they said made you feel uncomfortable. It can later happen they will joke about things that might make you feel unsafe again.

I know my closest friend have a bit of a dark humor. For me that know she have a dark humor have no problem handling her jokes. But another person can interoperate a joke as an attack because they view things differently.

By talking with your friends and communicating, you can avoid situations that might trigger your feelings of insecure and trust issues.

I hope you will feel better soon

 

[elliepaige20]

The joke they said was a bit insensitive comment. It’s hard handling trustissues with people.

It would be good to talk with your friends about you getting uncomfortable. We all interpreter things differently and by not telling your friend that what they said made you feel uncomfortable. It can later happen they will joke about things that might make you feel unsafe again.

I know my closest friend have a bit of a dark humor. For me that know she have a dark humor have no problem handling her jokes. But another person can interoperate a joke as an attack because they view things differently.

By talking with your friends and communicating, you can avoid situations that might trigger your feelings of insecure and trust issues.

I hope you will feel better soon

Hi thank you, I think I’m just finding it difficult because ever since it was said my mind keeps going to that dark place and now I overthink every interaction and every possibility, when in reality it’s probably not happening. I’ve managed to open up to one of my friends who understood completely and reassured me that there’s nothing going on between my ex and this person. I’m a very emotional person myself and am aware that my relationships with others can be very intense, so whenever I’ve lost a friend or been betrayed it’s cut really deep and I’ve almost been suicidal over it before. Sounds dramatic but with everything that’s happened over the years it’s no wonder. Sorry for rambling there, and thank you so much I really do appreciate it xxx

 

[Talina]

Hi thank you, I think I’m just finding it difficult because ever since it was said my mind keeps going to that dark place and now I overthink every interaction and every possibility, when in reality it’s probably not happening. I’ve managed to open up to one of my friends who understood completely and reassured me that there’s nothing going on between my ex and this person. I’m a very emotional person myself and am aware that my relationships with others can be very intense, so whenever I’ve lost a friend or been betrayed it’s cut really deep and I’ve almost been suicidal over it before. Sounds dramatic but with everything that’s happened over the years it’s no wonder. Sorry for rambling there, and thank you so much I really do appreciate it xxx

That must be hard to handle. I can understand it’s hard to handle when a person betrays you and losing friends, it will hurt. But it’s great that you have a friend that understood you when you open up and could reassured you

 

[elliepaige20]

That must be hard to handle. I can understand it’s hard to handle when a person betrays you and losing friends, it will hurt. But it’s great that you have a friend that understood you when you open up and could reassured you

Yeah it’s hard because I’ve been burned before and am terrified of it happening again, but I know a lot of it is just fuelled by my own paranoia and anxiety. But yeah my friend is great she helps a lot and I know I can trust her at least, it’s just the others I worry about xx

 

[Talina]

Yeah it’s hard because I’ve been burned before and am terrified of it happening again, but I know a lot of it is just fuelled by my own paranoia and anxiety. But yeah my friend is great she helps a lot and I know I can trust her at least, it’s just the others I worry about xx

Friends will go and come, but most important is keeping those that know you and supports you. I don’t have many friends. I know two of them will be friends I can keep close for a long time. The rest is okay as friends but I don’t know how long the relationship will hold. I think that’s just life.

 

[Deleted member 95740]

Most people don't need a psychiatrist, therapist or doctor. They just need a friend they can trust.

 

[elliepaige20]

Most people don't need a psychiatrist, therapist or doctor. They just need a friend they can trust.

That’s very true, I just think a lot of the time I have no real reason not to trust them, I just go off on a tangent in my own head and think of the worst case scenario.

 

[Deleted member 95740]

I do that too. It is difficult to trust people though especially when you struggle with thoughts and emotions.

 

[MissPink]

Trust with what your gut tells you not anyone else otherwise it will destroy your mind with doubts and negativity

 

[elliepaige20]

Trust with what your gut tells you not anyone else otherwise it will destroy your mind with doubts and negativity

Thank you, I just find it really hard to determine the difference between a gut feeling and my own anxiety, like logically speaking there’s nothing going on, but there’s still that doubt floating around in my head.