I do not want to go to group therapy

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For a few reasons.
1. I am not in a capacity to listen to the depression of others.
2. If I was in the mindset to tolerate a group setting, I would probably be able to go to work
3. Yes, this may be offensive to some people, but, I have a feeling I will be the only black person in my therapy and I’m far past my “token” days.
 
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Group therapy is an important part of my recovery from MDD and GAD. The way group therapy its done varies. Therapy classes like CBT tend to be more educational and less participatory. Process therapy groups are all participation and they function a lot like a support group.

There are aspects of group therapy that one cannot benefit from in individual therapy. Feeling a connection with other patients struggling with same problems. And I don't always have to be the one to speak up about a problem that affects most people suffering from a mental illness.

have a feeling I will be the only black person in my therapy and I’m far past my “token” days.
I get why you'd be reluctant. And because therapy gets really personal, there's always the discomfort of feeling exposed when sharing something, no matter who you are.

I am not in a capacity to listen to the depression of others.
Except perhaps when somebody says aloud exactly how you feel. Then you don't think you're not alone, you know you're not alone. Maybe you might learn a coping technique or two.

If I was in the mindset to tolerate a group setting, I would probably be able to go to work
One has next to nothing to do with the other.

If what you mean is that you just don't feel comfortable being around people right now, I understand that cause I've been there. If that's the case then group therapy might not be for you right now.

If your depression symptoms are unmanageable, any therapy will be less effective cause absorbing stuff is impossible when we need to use so much energy just to maintain. It's one reason why depression is such a tough illness to overcome with help. Until I found a medication that actually blunted my symptoms I didn't gain as much as I could have from years of therapy.

I hope you find a little peace and a little relief from your symptoms, to feel something inside you other than the emptiness.
 
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I feel you, I start anxiety group therapy next week and I'm dreading it, part of why I'm anxious is being around people idk
 
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Group therapy in Palos Verdes is a litiany of weathy suburban whites. I get you. But on the level of experience. No. I don’t see a connection. There’s a reason why almost no one responded to my introductory post because being close to someone who committed suicide and having a family history or mental disorders and being black is almost not even discussed.
 
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Group therapy makes no sense to the people paying for it. It makes all the sense in the world to those depositing the payments.
 
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Why would group therapy be recommended for people who have no general connection with the group. It seem like a cheap way to deal with mental heath issues
 
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Group therapy makes no sense to the people paying for it. It makes all the sense in the world to those depositing the payments.
its probably cheaper than 1 to 1 therapy if you're desperate, I don't know though as I get all my therapy for free
 
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I had an assessment 1 on 1. And a pre scheduled group therapy. Idk. I live in SoCal. Where you’re lucky to have health care.
 
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It is cheaper. It also functions as a support group. Depression takes from us our ability and our desire to socialise but group therapy isn't a social event. You will meet people who all suffer similar to you.

Just like you're doing here. And you're digging it here.

When that connection is made in real life, it'll feel like you're not alone. For real, group therapy is pretty much the only place in the world you can show up and be the authentic, f*cked up, depressed and anxious person you are and be welcomed for it, not judged or rejected.
 
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It is cheaper. It also functions as a support group. Depression takes from us our ability and our desire to socialise but group therapy isn't a social event. You will meet people who all suffer similar to you.

Just like you're doing here. And you're digging it here.

When that connection is made in real life, it'll feel like you're not alone. For real, group therapy is pretty much the only place in the world you can show up and be the authentic, f*cked up, depressed and anxious person you are and be welcomed for it, not judged or rejected.
I feel that group therapy would work AFTER getting some relief from the depression and anxiety with meds or ? When in full bloom MDD and GAD group therapy would be torture.
 
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I feel that group therapy would work AFTER getting some relief from the depression and anxiety with meds or ? When in full bloom MDD and GAD group therapy would be torture.
Quite. Although everyone's symptoms are not experienced the same. I was pretty unregulated my first attempt at group (Depression therapy group), this was my crazy mind's chatter:

Me: If I have to wait in line, if there's any obstacle in my way to group I'm turning around and going home.

Me: I can't believe I'm here with all these freaks and losers. I must be a freak and a loser.

Me: I hate this guy's voice. The light is too bright in this room. Someone upturn a bottle of perfume over their head? I can't wait to just be alone again.

And so it went like that, symptoms too strong but I powered through it. Everyone else om group was as sh1tty as or worse than I was with symptoms.
I couldn't process the information being taught but I learned something important anyways: I had more in common with people in group no matter what their background than I did with many of my friends and most of my family.
That sound messed up?
 

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