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I Desperately Need Advice For My Mentally Ill Grandmother



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Jan 3, 2018
I apologize for any errors but I need advice on my current situation. My grandmother who's mental illness has caused her to be hospitalized for almost a year now, is getting harder to deal with. She's delusional (amongst other things) but now is telling everyone possible that my father raped me. My father is a good man and has NEVER made sexual advances whatsoever. I just need to know how to possibly fix this delusion, I don't want somebody to believe this lie and destroy my father's reputation or life. I'm only a teenager so highschool and my parents medical problems are stressful enough, just some advice that I could pass on to my older family members perhaps?


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Aug 17, 2012
The West Country
This sounds like an incredibly stressful situation for you and your family. :hug1:

It's very difficult when someone is delusional to convince them that they're wrong, but i'm still wondering if you've spoken to your Grandmother and told her it isn't true?
You do have to be gentle in this situation - depending on her illness and symptoms, she may be unpleasant to you if you tell her she's wrong.

Do you find that she has one particular delusion that she fixates on, and then moves on from? Or can there be many delusions at any given time?
If she has moved on from other delusions in the past, you may find that eventually she'll stop saying that about your father and think about something else.

Are there people in particular who you worry might believe your Grandmother?
The only other thing I can think to suggest is to contact these people, either by letter or phone, and tell them that you're father has never touched you and that your Grandmother is unfortunately not well?

Again, i'm really sorry to hear of this. Being a teenager is hard enough without anything else thrown in the mix.


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Apr 24, 2017
Pyongyang, DPRK
Hi ThatUniqueUsername!x

Sorry to hear what you're going through. In regard to fixing the delusion, I don't see how it can be done. Delusional thinking is illogical and not based on reality or truth, and the sufferer believes that they are unquestionably right - thus, there isn't really any realistic way (besides therapy and medication perhaps) that you could tackle that.

I would focus on damage control - telling the older family members that it isn't true, and that your father is a good man who would never do anything like this. Also mention that your grandmother is experiencing delusional thinking, to explain why she is saying this. But you have to say this - it sounds like an obvious coverup if your father says itx

Much love <3
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