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I cant work it out please help!



Jun 9, 2018
hi, I had a bad time 4 months ago and in messages to family I said that I am ugly, useless and that my husband has lowered his standards with me ect and that he should see the light. I also said to them "don't worry I am not going to kill him (my husband) more likely myself." Cut a long story my sister in law replied and she sent me a helpful long message and in one of the messages she said that the "threats about myself and my husband don't scare us."

what did she mean by threats? I am now worried she thinks I wanted to harm my husband. What do you think she meant by threats? My husband said she probably meant threats in regards to me saying he lowered his standards with me and shouldn't be with me as that is a threat of our relationship.

I am ok now and I know my actions were irrational and scary for others and am now seeking help. Thanks for reading this far. I don't know why but this has made me so anxious and I just can't see the situation clearly.


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Jul 18, 2020
I don't know what she meant by threats. You probably have to go re-read you message as if you were an outsider. Perhaps you sounded suicidal. If she wrote long, thoughtful replies, try to stick with that rather than reading too much into an offhand remark.
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