- Sep 24, 2020
- ᛁ ᚨᛗ ᛖᚹᛖᚱᛃᚹᚺᛖᚱᛖ
hopefully you get the closure you are after soon.What he has doesn’t matter to me, we are no longer together and I have to give myself closure from that relationship since my ex never will, I am still working on completing that closure, but am almost there.
You do indeed sound like him, but my replies to you have been about you and not him. I am not sure I am making sense here lol !
We lasted as long as we did because for as long as I didn’t realise who he was, he was happy to carry on pretending. Post break up, when there was nothing to loose or gain from discussion. he gave me the opportunity to know him for who he really is. It didn’t give me the closure I needed exactly, but it helped.
That’s how I recognised you if I am honest. That is also why I can understand you, to a certain extent.
Had my ex not talked to me, I don’t think I could have ever learned his language.
All the time I thought I was having to walk on eggshells so as not to make him angry, all the bending backwards, all the sacrifices I made....were to make him happy. I now realise that I was just as dysfunctional as him, but in the complete opposite way. He wasn’t the only problem, I was too.
I wish we could have talked whilst we were still together, because we would never have had all the miscommunication that we had, and might have been able to make things work. I only ever saw he mask he always wore, till it slipped and I glimpsed his real face. He saw my real face at first, and then my mask went on, bit by bit, till I was suffocated by my own attempts to make him happy.
I don’t blame him at all for who he is, we are all different
You are making sense. I am just used to be compared to others exes in a way haha, i have heard it a fair few times so i automatically just assume im being compared now. thats on me not you.
You said walking on eggshells so not to make him angry. I fully get that as i have a bad temper but i can for the most part hold that in these days as i have gotten a bit older. Not a easy thing to do though