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I can't let out my emotions its like i cant cry properly

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Pffft

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I dont know what to do. I dont know what's going on anymore. I struggle to cry and let it out.. Anytime i do get upset i stop the tears. Its all linked to my childhood and how i was treated. My tears were never seen as genuine even though they always were. Anytime my eyes water i cant let go. Its like i feel the whole world is watching me especially those that were awful about it in my childhood.

Below the surface im panicking because i know there is stuff that is there to come out but its not moving. Im scared my emotions are going to bubble out as anger and i cant control it. Im just trying to keep a lid on it. I'm at the stage where im leaning against the wall with my forehead leaning/pushing against it and my hands placed firmly against it and i just cant hold it in but i cant let it out safely.

I feel helpless
 
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i understand how hard it is to cry, bullies at school taught me never to cry :hug:

*virtual holding you safely to help you feel safe enough to cry* :hug:
 
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Try listening to music or writing down how you feel or drawing. Some sort of form of expression to help you channel some of that energy out 👍🏼
 
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what midnight and Esther said

and yes there is not this obligation to cry either
thats a bit like trying to sneeze !
crying is something spontaneous really
when you are not thinking about it
there are other ways to express sadness

like as suggested here being creative,
maybe talking to someone
saying more in your posts here

important I think sometimes to talk verbally
not just in writing , but maybe that is just me

or just ' feel the feelings '

🧡 🧡 🧡
 
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I know what you mean. You suppress them for so long, it feels like you've forgotten how to express yourself. It's strange, but some people I've met who've had this problem have found that 'practicing' crying and laughing helped to break through that barrier, and now they can laugh and cry like normal :)

<3
 
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The psychologist I saw when as an inpatient bullied me I guess that's what she needed to do to get a reaction out of me.
I guess I've learned its ok to cry though still hard to let it out
 
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You don't need to cry. That is only one outlet. Maybe you'll cry or maybe you won't. That's okay. Can you try journaling, meditation, exercise, talking? There are many other ways to get things out of your system.
 
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Thank you all for your replies :grouphug:. I'm not great with creativity. I have been writing a journal for quite a long time now 👍. I think with crying it's that so many people tell me it's cathartic and it's okay to cry. I also feel my anger has been at the point where I can't control it. I am not really good at talking, in fact I think it's because i struggle to talk that I think it's making it harder to let down the crying barrier and because I can't let down the crying barrier down it means I can't open up and talk. @R_Sxo how did your friend practise? could your friend not laugh? I am really curious.👍
 
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I think we all need to get these emotions out. For me anger and agitation are from my pent up and trying to shut off the fact that actually my emotions that are the ones that are needed were to let go and cry and get that sadness out.
Even when I started crying in front of my psychiatrist shes like ' what's that' I was like nothing my response to all that hurt I needed to express but didn't know how too
 
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Hi Pffft,

Why don't you come cut some onions with me? Onions will definitely make you cry and you can also make a great meal.
 
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It take a lot to let it out and it is process.
Sadly cutting onions is only a response to an enzyme that causes a response to the tear ducts.
An emotional response is totally different
 
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Thank you all for your replies :grouphug:. I'm not great with creativity. I have been writing a journal for quite a long time now 👍. I think with crying it's that so many people tell me it's cathartic and it's okay to cry. I also feel my anger has been at the point where I can't control it. I am not really good at talking, in fact I think it's because i struggle to talk that I think it's making it harder to let down the crying barrier and because I can't let down the crying barrier down it means I can't open up and talk. @R_Sxo how did your friend practise? could your friend not laugh? I am really curious.👍
The diary is great for easing a racing mind - helps a lot! As for my friend, she found it almost impossible to cry. From what she's told me (and I've heard this work for others as well), watching emotional movies helped her to experience sadness (that was previously suppressed by numbness/nothing), and in time she was able to cry to movies. Once that floodgate (for want of a better word!) had opened, it became much easier for her to experience emotions again. And it makes sense - media like movies or music are able to invoke emotional responses, so I think it can definitely work! Hope this helps x

Much love <3
 
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