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I can't cope with my children

Sparklypurplepaws

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Firstly, I love my children dearly, they are my world, my rock and the reason I'm alive today.
But...... I just can't cope looking after them. It's too difficult. I have the usual I'm not good enough parent etc etc but I just can't seem to cope just being around them atm, I could send them to their dads for a bit but I worry without them is totally fall apart.
 
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My brother's had kids and he's living with my mum and dad, and my mum expresses feelings like this to me. She feels guilty about it, because she's looking after the kids almost 24/7 (my brother's quite useless) and she's 66. She's struggling. I tell her not to feel guilty about it, because there's only so much one person can take.

Please don't feel guilty about being overwhelmed by your kids; it's perfectly normal, especially if you're looking after them as a single parent. Is there no way you could send them to someone so you can have a bit of peace and quiet, even if it's only for a day or two? Everyone needs that sometimes.

Are they going back to school tomorrow, or are they not at school yet?
 
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They're back at school Wednesday, it'll be easier then..... I do feel so guilty for feeling this way but I just can't cope! It really worries me that I feel this way
 
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They're back at school Wednesday, it'll be easier then..... I do feel so guilty for feeling this way but I just can't cope! It really worries me that I feel this way
I don't think you should worry or feel guilty; it's normal. :)
 
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Please don't feel guilty you are obviously a loving and caring Mum . It's natural to feel it's all a bit much at times . Also as kids my younger brother and I split our time between our Dad and Mum at times we lived with one parent more than the other for a bit . As kids we understood it was not always easy for our Mum and Dad and as adults we know they have always done their best by us . Sending you a massive hug and love xxxx
 
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I don't think you should feel guilty or be hard on yourself about this.

Perhaps sending them to their Dad's is a good idea?
I understand that it may make you anxious while they're away, but thinking about it in the long run, perhaps you need a break and some time until you feel a bit better.

I can't imagine how challenging it must be to be a parent full stop, without the added pressure of having a mental health issue. I'm sure that you do an amazing job.

Just think, if you children were old enough to understand what you were going through, i'm pretty sure they'd rather you did what you needed to do to feel better rather than you on battling.

I hope that whatever you decide to do that things get better. :hug1:
 
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