I can't cope any longer

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Suicidal. Saw care co-ord today. Phone Samaritans later. Phoned DBT support people. I am still totally suicidal. What more can I do?
 
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Suicidal. Saw care co-ord today. Phone Samaritans later. Phoned DBT support people. I am still totally suicidal. What more can I do?
hey i have no magic pill, just letting you know people out here have your back..... please stay safe xx
 
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hey i have no magic pill, just letting you know people out here have your back..... please stay safe xx
Thanks lovely. I'm worrying because I don't know if I have the desire to stay safe. I feel really scared.
 
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Thanks lovely. I'm worrying because I don't know if I have the desire to stay safe. I feel really scared.
i was there last week so know the feelings. try and focus just in front of yourself, the next two minutes make plans... cuppa, food, sofa. thats how i get by. xx
 
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i was there last week so know the feelings. try and focus just in front of yourself, the next two minutes make plans... cuppa, food, sofa. thats how i get by. xx
Thanks lovely. I've ordered a Chinese takeaway. I don't know how this will sound, but basically that it all seems so unfair that we have to go through all of this. When will it all end, apart from the obvious (suicide).?
 
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Thanks lovely. When will it all end, apart from the obvious (suicide).?
if the words of Bros, "I can't answer that"

enjoy your food, and maybe an early night or a DVD might help.

you married? kids?
 
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if the words of Bros, "I can't answer that"

enjoy your food, and maybe an early night or a DVD might help.

you married? kids?
I'm watching tv. The Chinese has just arrived, in the name of therapy:) I'm married, but separated (living on my own in supported accommodation. I have 4 children. I guess I'm not surprised that I get suicidal and lonely, not being able to live with my family.
 
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Hi - I'm in the same Horrible Situation and cannot see a way through.
 
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Am sorry xx. You are doing all that you can. One minute, hour, day at a time. No one can ask more.
I get this way often too, it is hell, but somehow am still here, a lot of us are aren't we? Try not to ask too much of yourself and use the supports you have- is what they are there for. Am thinking of you angel, and you too Juliet xx
 
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Am sorry xx. You are doing all that you can. One minute, hour, day at a time. No one can ask more.
I get this way often too, it is hell, but somehow am still here, a lot of us are aren't we? Try not to ask too much of yourself and use the supports you have- is what they are there for. Am thinking of you angel, and you too Juliet xx
Thanks Write. I feel like I have over-used services today, but at the same time as saying that, if I hadn't, I truly believe I wouldn't be here now.
 
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That is what they are there for, to help you get through these horrible times so that hopefully in time things will get better xxx
 
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That is what they are there for, to help you get through these horrible times so that hopefully in time things will get better xxx
Do you understand my concerns? I guess I can't win whatever I do. My brain is punishing me for asking for help for what I think is too much, but if I hadn't I would be punishing myself for doing nothing.
 
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Yes I do understand I think. I feel the same in that I am scared if I ask too often they will get sick of me but at the end of the day it is your life you are fighting for. Think it s about feeling we are not worth it, or self hatred but you are worth it, you are worth so much. Sorry if I say wrong thing. Also with DBT that is part of the agreement , that they will talk to you when you are struggling using skills to help ypu get better at coping.
 
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Yes I do understand I think. I feel the same in that I am scared if I ask too often they will get sick of me but at the end of the day it is your life you are fighting for. Think it s about feeling we are not worth it, or self hatred but you are worth it, you are worth so much. Sorry if I say wrong thing. Also with DBT that is part of the agreement , that they will talk to you when you are struggling using skills to help ypu get better at coping.
You haven't said the wrong thing lovely. I appreciate your messages. I just don't know how to get through this, even though I feel I should know.
 
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Hi Angelflower,
Your doing the right things contacting support agencies, please don't feel guilty. I'm sorry you still feel suicidal.
Hope these feelings pass really quickly.
Do keep in touch, so we know how you are.
I'm here to listen too.
Take care
 
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Hi Angelflower,
Your doing the right things contacting support agencies, please don't feel guilty. I'm sorry you still feel suicidal.
Hope these feelings pass really quickly.
Do keep in touch, so we know how you are.
I'm here to listen too.
Take care
Thanks very much Mayflower. The feelings have reduced somewhat. I still have urges, but not as intense as they were yesterday. I think one thing I've learnt is that I can't keep up such a high level of intensity forever, that those feelings reduce over time, just so long as I can stay safe and ride the urges. Does that make sense?
 
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It makes Life like a Prison sentence - Unbearable. A Long wait 'til my Children are Adults and I'm not sure what will be left of my Health by then. Insufferable.
 
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On your side, and want to give you some encouragement, because I've been there. When in that "moment," let go of the thoughts of self, and reach out to think of the good side, good things, good people. Open your heart to let in the good, the bad things will slowly fade. I know, easier said than done. And, sure, there is much more to it than that. But you know what? It is the "more" you can do now. The alternative will not help your precious children. Please know that we all care.
 
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hi all i know these are quite commonly said recommendations but a couple of things which help are to go for walks sometimes even if you dont feel like it (just get outside)
and also reading, even if you dont feel like it, read anyway because it just gives yourself a break
here are a couple of books:
A New Earth - by Eckhart Tolle
The Untethered Soul - by Michael A. Singer
or if you dont like those types of books, just read anything, eg. fiction

finally some more advice is, if you feel like crap, either mental or physical, or both, just try to go with it and accept it rather than start analyzing and thinking too much about yourself and everything. this means that whatever happens in life, you wont be adding anything else to it, because you dont deserve to suffer, nobody does. so if you feel good, fine. and if you feel bad. fair enough, u dont feel so good. dont add anything more to that. let you body slowly heal itself, it can take time but we all have plenty of that. dont give the body extra 'stress' by worrying and thinking about everything too much. it takes practice, but you can do it. absolutely everyone can.
 

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