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I called the cops on my manic girlfriend

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Seeker15

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I posted here once before a short while back. Since then the roller coaster has gotten much worse. I guess I just need to share this and also need support.

She reached a full blown mania last night and attacked me while I was holding our 9 month old son, several times. She broke things, ransacked the apartment and tried to break my windows as I was driving off with our son. Then she took off.

I had the police come out but they could not find her, so they couldn't do much. Her cell phone is broken so no one could contact her. I slept on it and decided she needs to be committed regardless. I figured out she was back home so I called the police again. When they showed up she wouldn't say much. As it turns out, since she seems fine, they again couldn't do anything. I told the cops to tell her that if she wants to see her son again she will need to commit herself to the psych ward.

She also attacked her mom, and a lot more happened than that, just trying to keep this brief. I am at a loss. The woman I love is completely manic. The medicines aren't working. Now my son and I are staying with my parents for an indefinite amount of time.

What should my next steps be? I'm more worried about our son having a functional mother than the relationship itself (although I miss her so much). How do people deal with this?
 
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Hello Seeker,

Welcome back.I am sorry to hear your girlfriend lost control and smashed the windows and hurt her mum.
You did the right thing getting your son away from her and calling the police to take her to hospital.It is unfortunate she has calmed down by then and the police decided not to act.Knowing you still care for her I want to reassure you she will sooner or later regret her behavior and want to make amends, she will think of her son and want to be a mother to him, a good mother,she will want to get her life back on track and be willing to work at it so don't despair.She is just in the middle of illness right now and bpd is a hard thing to manage.Hopefully something she tries medication wise sooner or later will stabilize her moods. Meanwhile think of yourself and your son and keeping you both safe.Best wishes.Nikitax
 
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Thank you Nikita, I needed to hear that. The diagnosis was only establishes a few months ago. I have been growing more frustrated over the years as she has become increasingly distant and unstable. At least we know what we're dealing with now. But I know it will take some time, we're still at step 1 really.

It is so confusing. Within 24 hours she has: assaulted her family, tried to apologize, gotten even angrier, jumped out of the car downtown and ran into the woods, probably cheated on me, sent me two emails saying how much she loves me and that she wants to get better, and then removed me from her Facebook. I am still trying to determine if there isn't a personality disorder on top of the Bipolar diagnosis. Her cycling is extremely rapid. So far her psych does not believe she has a personality disorder however.
 
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Hi Seeker. I have the bi polar and when I was very sick I was out of control. I wouldn't take the lithium they offered. Rapid Cycling is more difficult to control; that's what I have. But now I'm on the lithium and navane and I have a normal life, finally. No one thought I'd ever get well. I was declared incompetent. But I got well and I'm writing to say that eventually the right medication may yet be found.
 
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