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I am severely depressed, do not know how much longer i can take it.

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I'm stuck i do not know what to do in life. I feel really old and no real life experience (working), don't own a home and no real savings, and no girlfriend. I am close to being homeless.
 
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Hi Ausbloke

You say you have no working experience. Have you thought about volunteering, it's a good way to get experience. As for no girlfriend, maybe you could join some hobby clubs and meet folks that way and you never know. And close to homeless, can you maybe get financial advice or help somewhere.

And just wondering about your depression, have you seen a doctor or spoke to someone lke a cousellor?

Sorry, I know this isn't much help but maybe you'll get better suggestions from other members here. Hang in there and don't give up.
 
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Hello there. Sorry do you mean you haven't worked much so far? I have had large gaps in employment due to depression. I agree with the above person and sounds like volunteering, if possible, would be a nice way to meet folks and or get some experience. From what I recall there are free dating apps if you're looking for a relationship. Sorry if I'm not much help.
 
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Hi Ausbloke

You say you have no working experience. Have you thought about volunteering, it's a good way to get experience. As for no girlfriend, maybe you could join some hobby clubs and meet folks that way and you never know. And close to homeless, can you maybe get financial advice or help somewhere.

And just wondering about your depression, have you seen a doctor or spoke to someone lke a cousellor?

Sorry, I know this isn't much help but maybe you'll get better suggestions from other members here. Hang in there and don't give up.
thanks @qwynie Rose, I am looking into volunteering but i've noticed some are biased when it comes to someone in my position, though i'm waiting for some more responses.

For depression i've seek'd/ many docs/counselors advice but all are in a roundabout way, keep offering pills only, not really the solution at this stage.

I am looking into dating at this stage but wont make move untill i'm more established.
 
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Hello there. Sorry do you mean you haven't worked much so far? I have had large gaps in employment due to depression. I agree with the above person and sounds like volunteering, if possible, would be a nice way to meet folks and or get some experience. From what I recall there are free dating apps if you're looking for a relationship. Sorry if I'm not much help.

thanks, yes i haven't worked much at all in my life due to fear and comprehension issues. im now at a point where the thought of engaging work scares me.
 
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thanks @qwynie Rose, I am looking into volunteering but i've noticed some are biased when it comes to someone in my position, though i'm waiting for some more responses.

For depression i've seek'd/ many docs/counselors advice but all are in a roundabout way, keep offering pills only, not really the solution at this stage.

I am looking into dating at this stage but wont make move untill i'm more established.

Maybe it's time to ask a doc outright what alternatives to meds are available. Does counselling or talk therapy help, art therapy even?

As for volunteering, I don't know what your position is but don't give up.
 
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Maybe it's time to ask a doc outright what alternatives to meds are available. Does counselling or talk therapy help, art therapy even?

As for volunteering, I don't know what your position is but don't give up.
yeah have spoken to the doc and they did offer mental health plans/therapy/counselling and im on the waiting list and i will give that a go for now.

thanks everyone for the advices, much appreciate it
 
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I'm stuck i do not know what to do in life. I feel really old and no real life experience (working), don't own a home and no real savings, and no girlfriend. I am close to being homeless.
These basic human needs like employment and housing are no joke, that's for sure. I can relate; I've not had any real work experience to speak of, and time has almost run out. It's that in-between stage where there's ageism or else employers expect you to have a wealth of experience because of your age. The strain of survival can certainly contribute to depression.
 
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These basic human needs like employment and housing are no joke, that's for sure. I can relate; I've not had any real work experience to speak of, and time has almost run out. It's that in-between stage where there's ageism or else employers expect you to have a wealth of experience because of your age. The strain of survival can certainly contribute to depression.

Hi @Lady in Blue, you are very correct in all you have mentioned. Though, as i think about it, the most contributing factor to the depression is not being able quickly understand things, picking up and retaining information as quickly as others do (am very slow both conversational and skills [not stupid tho]) otherwise id have no fear taking on any kind of work/job. I'm at a point where everyday i wake up i'm feeling weird in the stomach, I look mentally sick to others and i know it because i get funny looks form them and i can see them whispering around me about me but my eating is normal. i guess i have dug a big hole and reality is hitting hard now as to climbing out of it.
 
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Hi @Lady in Blue, you are very correct in all you have mentioned. Though, as i think about it, the most contributing factor to the depression is not being able quickly understand things, picking up and retaining information as quickly as others do (am very slow both conversational and skills [not stupid tho]) otherwise id have no fear taking on any kind of work/job. I'm at a point where everyday i wake up i'm feeling weird in the stomach, I look mentally sick to others and i know it because i get funny looks form them and i can see them whispering around me about me but my eating is normal. i guess i have dug a big hole and reality is hitting hard now as to climbing out of it.
I know what it's like to have a slower processing speed. I have visual perceptual/visual spatial/mathematical learning disability. It wasn't diagnosed until late in life. In school, I was considered intelligent because of my verbal/writing ability, so what if I couldn't do math - most girls can't (that was the attitude). My mental processing speed in general is slow, and it can make me appear stupid at times. It hinders almost every aspect of my waking life, and is tiring. In a contemporary, fast paced working environment, particularly in a big city, I don't stand a chance. So I tried self employment but was unable to make a living out of it because the business model wasn't working and it was not financially sustainable.
 
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thanks, yes i haven't worked much at all in my life due to fear and comprehension issues. im now at a point where the thought of engaging work scares me.
Does volunteering feel like something you might be able to do? Maybe something that is less fearful? I get anxiety when I think about going back to work, so I can understand how you feel fear for sure.
 
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Does volunteering feel like something you might be able to do? Maybe something that is less fearful? I get anxiety when I think about going back to work, so I can understand how you feel fear for sure.

yes thanks looking into it
 
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