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I’ve been through so much. Idk if I’ll ever can be anxiety free..

HauntedWitch

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Well, for example; I go shopping and in my conscious and unconscious mind I know that there is a good change things can go down bad. Went things do get bad it gets confirmed that it went bad again. So there is always a voice inside me that is asking if there is a change that things go wrong and often that’s the case, because I call it myself. That’s how I think about it right now.
You are aware that something can go wrong when you leave the house. It's good to be aware! There really are hazards out there. So maybe you are just overthinking things for now. Whenever you find yourself in that overthinking mode, maybe you could change activities to distract yourself.
 
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You are aware that something can go wrong when you leave the house. It's good to be aware! There really are hazards out there. So maybe you are just overthinking things for now. Whenever you find yourself in that overthinking mode, maybe you could change activities to distract yourself.
I’m trying to do that too, but sometimes it’s so overwhelming I don’t know what to do anymore and I start pinching myself to try to make myself clear and sharp again. It’s a bad habbit I know.
 
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Yes I understand you, & no you're not stupid at all, with anxiety disorder it's a fight with your conscious & subconscious mind, don't mean to be rude, but the right word is subconscious mind.

The problem with anxiety is that it's like a monster, dominating your conscious mind with negativity & irrational thinking & behaviour. It doesn't like positivity & it makes you feel too scared to think positive, & behave rationally.

Don't be scared to start thinking intense positive thoughts, & intense rational thinking & behaviour.

You have to start thinking about now, & the future, the past doesn't matter, what is important is to look at the possible future you have, yes the past was horrible, it has been for me, I'd say it's ruined my life at times, but that's all in the past.

The worst thing that the anxiety monster does is make you feel scared, but remind yourself that you aren't scared, you just feel scared.
 
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I have schitzoaffective disorder and severe social anxiety. So much that If I don’t take,meds I can’t leave the house. I’ve been know to cry all the way round a supermarket. But I have to shop so I had to do it. I refuse to do online grocery shopping as I’d never leave the house.Getting to work was difficult, I would get up an hour earlier than I needed to just to make sure my pills were working. But I managed to work for most of my life. Yes it was difficult and I could have stayed at home on benefits but I wanted to work. I wanted all the benefits that working offered.
I’m now retired but do voluntary work to make me go out. Life isn’t easy with MH but you can still have a life if you want
 
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I’m trying to do that too, but sometimes it’s so overwhelming I don’t know what to do anymore and I start pinching myself to try to make myself clear and sharp again. It’s a bad habbit I know.
I hope you don't injure yourself with the pinching etc! You could try gripping some other object like a table or chair to steady yourself and bring yourself back into contact with present day reality. Notice the texture and feel of the object in your hand and take note of other things around you like sounds of traffic or birds singing outside the window.
 
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Or wear an rubber band and snap it on your wrist. It won’t cause you any harm and it was told to me by my CPN
 
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I have schitzoaffective disorder and severe social anxiety. So much that If I don’t take,meds I can’t leave the house. I’ve been know to cry all the way round a supermarket. But I have to shop so I had to do it. I refuse to do online grocery shopping as I’d never leave the house.Getting to work was difficult, I would get up an hour earlier than I needed to just to make sure my pills were working. But I managed to work for most of my life. Yes it was difficult and I could have stayed at home on benefits but I wanted to work. I wanted all the benefits that working offered.
I’m now retired but do voluntary work to make me go out. Life isn’t easy with MH but you can still have a life if you want
Massive respect how you handled things.

How long did it take before you where on a level that you had improvements that things where easier to do?
 
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I hope you don't injure yourself with the pinching etc! You could try gripping some other object like a table or chair to steady yourself and bring yourself back into contact with present day reality. Notice the texture and feel of the object in your hand and take note of other things around you like sounds of traffic or birds singing outside the window.
It’s more like I need a physical sensation besides anxiety on a moment like that. Birds singing around me and trying to concentrate on a object doesn’t really help. I only have this on a really high anxiety level. Unfortunatelly this is more then usual at the moment.
 
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Massive respect how you handled things.

How long did it take before you where on a level that you had improvements that things where easier to do?
my meds kept me reasonably level but I did have spells off work. Fortnatly I worked for an American company that had a really good health plan. But when I reached 50 I couldn’t work anymore as psychosis took over and I was making a numpty of myself at work. They kept me on sick for six years till they asked me to leave. I’m now retired
 
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It’s more like I need a physical sensation besides anxiety on a moment like that. Birds singing around me and trying to concentrate on a object doesn’t really help. I only have this on a really high anxiety level. Unfortunatelly this is more then usual at the moment.
Well...gripping a table or chair and feeling it beneath your hand and observing the texture are physical sensations that could bring you back to reality. But you have to do whatever works for you! Experiment and I hope you find something that helps.
 
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