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Cornflowerblue
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Hi all, please let me have your opinions.
Does the type of person I describe below sound like someone high on narcissistic traits? I have been cruelly invalidated and suffered for so long that I can’t trust my own judgement. I guess if quite a few people agree with my theory that this person is indeed a narcissist to some degree then I may finally have some answers as to why I suffered and continue to suffer even today. Every opinion and comment counts. Many thanks.
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She needs to be superior, right, or in charge all of the time.
She has to be the boss. You are for her or you are against her.
She is self absorbed.
She is happy with you only as long as you always say yes. Anything else makes you the problem.
Makes no effort to truly empathise or listen. Not sure if she is capable.
She can never be in the wrong, she has never said sorry over anything Ever in decades. She never sees her part in any problem.
She can never be criticised, her motives can never be questioned in the slightest or there will be no explanation but full blown rage.
Any kind of dissent or disagreement is badly received and results in fighting or cold dismissal and possible complete cut off to punish the dissenter.
She never openly discusses her own feelings.She shares very little personal or ‘real’ info about her personal life or feelings.
She is surrounded by ‘yes people’ who bite their tongues , people indebted to her, people in awe of her, people who want something from her and people she controls for one reason or another.
She is highly social, extroverted and thrives on admiration and has a very large circle of ‘friends’ , followers and admirers. People must treat her with the respect she ‘deserves’.
It appears opinions of family members are not as important as those of outsiders to preserve her image.
She likes family best when they are broken or needy for her to ‘help fix’ and control if needed. She is entitled and expects them to bend to her wishes if necessary in return for all her ‘goodness’.
She has a black belt in arguing and can say extremely cold and unkind things.She can also be very nice, loving and generous too on occasion which causes confusion and imbalance in me and possibly others too.
She is dominating. Her issues are real and important. Your issues are due to being overly sensitive, stupid or selfish whatever the situation demands .
Her choices sometimes appear to be cold, calculating and callous under the guise of expediency and practicality
I think she probably feels sad, lonely and empty at times but will not allow people in.
Interactions with her may be few now but have always always been anxiety inducing from a young age and leave me hurting and confused. I feel small and helpless, erased.
Does the type of person I describe below sound like someone high on narcissistic traits? I have been cruelly invalidated and suffered for so long that I can’t trust my own judgement. I guess if quite a few people agree with my theory that this person is indeed a narcissist to some degree then I may finally have some answers as to why I suffered and continue to suffer even today. Every opinion and comment counts. Many thanks.
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She needs to be superior, right, or in charge all of the time.
She has to be the boss. You are for her or you are against her.
She is self absorbed.
She is happy with you only as long as you always say yes. Anything else makes you the problem.
Makes no effort to truly empathise or listen. Not sure if she is capable.
She can never be in the wrong, she has never said sorry over anything Ever in decades. She never sees her part in any problem.
She can never be criticised, her motives can never be questioned in the slightest or there will be no explanation but full blown rage.
Any kind of dissent or disagreement is badly received and results in fighting or cold dismissal and possible complete cut off to punish the dissenter.
She never openly discusses her own feelings.She shares very little personal or ‘real’ info about her personal life or feelings.
She is surrounded by ‘yes people’ who bite their tongues , people indebted to her, people in awe of her, people who want something from her and people she controls for one reason or another.
She is highly social, extroverted and thrives on admiration and has a very large circle of ‘friends’ , followers and admirers. People must treat her with the respect she ‘deserves’.
It appears opinions of family members are not as important as those of outsiders to preserve her image.
She likes family best when they are broken or needy for her to ‘help fix’ and control if needed. She is entitled and expects them to bend to her wishes if necessary in return for all her ‘goodness’.
She has a black belt in arguing and can say extremely cold and unkind things.She can also be very nice, loving and generous too on occasion which causes confusion and imbalance in me and possibly others too.
She is dominating. Her issues are real and important. Your issues are due to being overly sensitive, stupid or selfish whatever the situation demands .
Her choices sometimes appear to be cold, calculating and callous under the guise of expediency and practicality
I think she probably feels sad, lonely and empty at times but will not allow people in.
Interactions with her may be few now but have always always been anxiety inducing from a young age and leave me hurting and confused. I feel small and helpless, erased.