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Hi. I’m new to this and I needed to get this out. I hope someone can relate to how I feel. I’ve been struggling with my mental health for the last five years. All through my teens I’ve experienced suicidal thoughts. I have a great life. I have a good job, a boyfriend, a loving and supportive family, money. You may ask, why? Why is someone that has it all so unhappy? I ask myself the same. Well, when I was 15 I was raped. I was taken advantage of when under the influence of alcohol. He hasn’t faced any consequences for what he did to me . But this isn’t a sob story I don’t expect sympathy. What happened to me happened but what occurred after was even worse. I didn’t deal with it when it happened. And as I was so young I didn’t really come to terms with what had happened to me. It’s only now in my twenties that I am experiencing severe anxiety and depression. I don’t know if this is linked and maybe I’m stupid to ask if it is. But my life has slowly taken a turn for the worse. I overthink everything. I push my friends away. I’m always irritated and I lose my temper quickly so I get into arguments with those close to me. I lock myself away in my room and I cancel my plans because I’m scared of everything. Exercise doesn’t help. Alcohol doesn’t help. I just have this numb feeling inside of me. And it stays with me every day, 24/7. People always ask me what is wrong and I can’t explain why. Does anyone else feel like this?
 
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:welcome: to the forum. I was raped once too and it was years later that I finally got therapy with Rape Crisis counselling service and it turned my life around. I remember that I thought I had coped and dealt with it but I hadn't at all. I was left frightened of so many areas of life and was short tempered with people.

I think that it starts with one thing like the rape and then others pile on top and you can't deal with them because of this raw wound inside that never healed. I strongly suggest you get good counselling for it.
 
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Hi there.I'm sorry for what you experienced.Have you received any counseling/therapy to help you with it?Many times rape can cause PTSD so that's something you could possibly be diagnosed with so it's important to seek help.

BTW,welcome.
 
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:welcome: to the forum. I was raped once too and it was years later that I finally got therapy with Rape Crisis counselling service and it turned my life around. I remember that I thought I had coped and dealt with it but I hadn't at all. I was left frightened of so many areas of life and was short tempered with people.

I think that it starts with one thing like the rape and then others pile on top and you can't deal with them because of this raw wound inside that never healed. I strongly suggest you get good counselling for it.
So true,
Hi there.I'm sorry for what you experienced.Have you received any counseling/therapy to help you with it?Many times rape can cause PTSD so that's something you could possibly be diagnosed with so it's important to seek help.

BTW,welcome.
hi there. No I haven’t. If I’m honest I’ve been putting it off because I still live with my parents and I don’t want them to suspect that something is going on. The last thing I would want is for this to come out to my family. It would destroy them.
 
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I'm sure your parents would want what's best for you though,right?

Would they even have to know what your counseling/therapy is about if you didn't want them to know?What is your fear of them finding out?

How old are you?
 
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Yeah you’re right they would. My fear of them finding out is how they would react. My mum is very sensitive and over protective of me and my siblings as it is. It’s just something I think I will take to the grave with me. Because the pain will all be too much for them. I’d rather carry the burden myself. But yeah I have thought about counselling. I’m based in London so I don’t know where to start, who to go to, what to say etc. But I think this is something which I need to address as it’s ruining my relationships/friendships because I’m so emotionally unstable.
 
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Maybe you can seek counseling without them even knowing or possibly without them knowing the reason if they do find out you're going.You could just say you're struggling with anxiety or something?

There's a saying "we are only as sick as our secrets" and I do believe sharing what happened with a professional would be ideal for you.

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Thank you so much for all your replies. Maybe there is a way out. Hugs
 
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Hi. I’m new to this and I needed to get this out. I hope someone can relate to how I feel. I’ve been struggling with my mental health for the last five years. All through my teens I’ve experienced suicidal thoughts. I have a great life. I have a good job, a boyfriend, a loving and supportive family, money. You may ask, why? Why is someone that has it all so unhappy? I ask myself the same. Well, when I was 15 I was raped. I was taken advantage of when under the influence of alcohol. He hasn’t faced any consequences for what he did to me . But this isn’t a sob story I don’t expect sympathy. What happened to me happened but what occurred after was even worse. I didn’t deal with it when it happened. And as I was so young I didn’t really come to terms with what had happened to me. It’s only now in my twenties that I am experiencing severe anxiety and depression. I don’t know if this is linked and maybe I’m stupid to ask if it is. But my life has slowly taken a turn for the worse. I overthink everything. I push my friends away. I’m always irritated and I lose my temper quickly so I get into arguments with those close to me. I lock myself away in my room and I cancel my plans because I’m scared of everything. Exercise doesn’t help. Alcohol doesn’t help. I just have this numb feeling inside of me. And it stays with me every day, 24/7. People always ask me what is wrong and I can’t explain why. Does anyone else feel like this?
 
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You haven't accepted what's happened to you.. maybe because you don't know how to ?? ...

But it's easier than you think..

It's as easy as saying to yourself I was raped..

Without realising it you are holding a resistance within and dening yourself if the freedom you deserve...
 
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You haven't accepted what's happened to you.. maybe because you don't know how to ?? ...

But it's easier than you think..

It's as easy as saying to yourself I was raped..

Without realising it you are holding a resistance within and dening yourself if the freedom you deserve...
I'm sorry but telling someone that getting over a significant trauma is easy is very unhelpful.No trauma is easy to deal with and if it was as easy as her saying to herself she was raped there wouldn't be anyone struggling with those types of things,there would be no rape trauma syndrome,there would be no PTSD,etc.

It takes working with a professional to process it and work through it in order to recover.And I'm sorry if I sound harsh but I felt not only was your reply dismissive to the OP but to anyone that experienced trauma.
 
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I´v expirienced familiar things in my life. I´m dealing with a lot of panic. Some days feeling as if I cant border myself from things that sorrounding me. As if I´m soaking my enviorment up and I feel totally exhaustet all the time. My head feels as if there is a sleeping self inside of me. A little me that doesn´t want to see and want to sleep all the time. It pressures me down and meakes me feel anguished.
 
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