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Husband Thinks I Cheated. Paranoid Personality Disorder. What Can Be Done?

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Husband Thinks I Cheated. Paranoid Personality Disorder. What Can Be Done?

Hello everyone,

First of all I love my husband and we have a two month old son. Unfortunately he has it in his head that I have cheated on him multiple times. He thinks I cheated before we got married, after marriage, and even when I was pregnant. The stories he tells me are so outrageous it's like he doesn't even know me. He's accused me of sleeping with the neighbors, sneaking men into the house while he has been at work, and even saying I did it while pregnant with my mom visiting. He's telling his family and friends that our son isn't his. Says I'm trash. Posting naked pictures of me on Facebook, and said I delivered our son early due to my cheating. It was God's punishment to me.

He was coming home off and on during the week to "visit" with me when he was suppose to be working. Each time he came home I was asleep on the couch, watching tv, doing housework, and pretty much being a good stay at home wife. I quit my job, stopped going shopping as much, and I NEVER had anyone over. And I STILL get accused of cheating. No matter what I say or do I'm always "up to something", "being sneaky", or "I must be with them". Them being the stalkers in his mind.

I've tried to convince him that we both need counseling, but he won't go for it. He says he loves me, but I can't live with someone who constantly thinks I'm cheating. And him going back and forth about our son being his or not. I told him I'd happily get a paternity test ordered because I have nothing to hide.

I will say though my health is better since I moved out. I still love my husband, but can't be with him. I've prayed, prayed, and prayed. Tried to be super sweet, and I've also tried tough love. NOTHING gets through to him. When I stay quiet it's bad, and when I stand up for myself it's worse. I'm looking at separation or divorce. I've asked him if I'm cheated so much why be with me? He claims he loves me and says I've fallen into the stalkers trap. That it's not my fault. Wash, rinse, repeat on everything. It would be easier if he hated me instead of saying he wants me back and loves me. It's tearing me apart.

Does anyone have any treatment options that work? How did you get your spouse/relative/friend to seek help? Things have been so bad, I have no hope.
 
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Hi Biscuitgirl.

Im sorry for your struggles with your husband it is so hard when you love someone and they won't get the help or support they obviously need to give you both a chance.

My father was as you describe to my mother , it made for an awful childhood for me.

I don't know the answers and the most obvious ones Ie support and counselling he Is refusing.
In my opinion if he wants to save the marriage he should do anything to get help. I don't know the answers I wish I did.
Perhaps there would be something on the mind site that would guide you, they have a part for people trying to help others who need support,perhaps some advice there on how to get him to get help, Home | Mind, the mental health charity - help for mental health problems

Maybe someone else will come along who can advise better.

I truly wish you well it's a very exhausting situation you are in. I know my mothers health suffered..

Also Welcome to the forum, it's a great place to come along and read posts and post!

Unique1 xx
 
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Hello, I know it’s been awhile since you’ve posted this but I’m going through the same thing and it’s driving me crazy!! I don’t know what else to do! I don’t want a divorce, I love my husband! But I am not cheating on him and never have!! Did yours ever get better? Please let me know what the end results were. I just can’t handle this anymore! It’s literally making me crazy!

Thank you
 
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Hello, I know it’s been awhile since you’ve posted this but I’m going through the same thing and it’s driving me crazy!! I don’t know what else to do! I don’t want a divorce, I love my husband! But I am not cheating on him and never have!! Did yours ever get better? Please let me know what the end results were. I just can’t handle this anymore! It’s literally making me crazy!

Thank you
I am also going through the same thing did you ever get an answer? Can they get better ? My husband is accusing me of sleeping with all of his work colleagues and friends each time I raise the subject with him he adds someone else to the list. He cheated on me and told me 8 years ago he said he was so sorry me only told me because he got paranoid that everyone knew. This so is why it hurts so much because I forgave him and have always been faithful I come from a broken home and would never cheat. He now says he wants to leave me because I won’t admit what I have done. We have been together for 23 years married for 20 and have 2 wonderful teenagers who will be broken if they find out. Please help me with advice if you can . Thank you
 
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I am going through this as well. I am so unhappy. I love my husband but his controlling ways and paranoia has gotten worse that he is acting the same way to me almost everyday! I feel stupid because I used to be one of those women who would think "why doesn't she leave?" Just yesterday he comes home from work, at first he fine, laughing and acting all happy, but as the day goes on here he goes with asking me questions, looking through the clothes for sign of bodily fluids from sexual activity with God knows who(it can be anybody he thinks his friends, relatives, unseen men, and a random man(whose name that I NEVER knew but he insisted I did) at store we BOTH worked at(same hours and days) who he thinks I had sex with in a dressing room while we working on the SAME FLOOR) and searching and researching my internet history and accusing me of putting mysterious back end apps on the computer and phone to hide messaging this mystery man. Like the woman above I too worked. I had a couple of good jobs with the state of Florida and USPS. Well he would call me as soon as I would get in the car to get to work, be on the phone with me the entire ride to work, then stay on the phone with me my ENTIRE 8 hour shift and lunch hour(and don't let the phone hang up then that would me I was having sex with someone that quick) then stay on the phone the entire ride from work back home until I pulled up in front of the house! Yes this is 100% true. Now I know any reasonable person would think what, why deal with that. My logic was well maybe he can hear that nothing is going on but me working. NOPE to him I was still have sex, if he heard a male co worker talking to someone well I must like him, too silent that means I giving someone a sexual favor, I'm laughing too much that means that I am planning to cheat later. he insisted that a woman wanted to fight me because I slept with her husband! The sad thing she was a co worker asking for help loading potluck food in her car. How he heard your're sleeping with my husband I never understood. Or accusing me of making plans with a stranger when they were asking for directions, or just making up blatant lies and stories that NEVER HAPPENED.I quit both of the good jobs just so he would stop but it never stops it just as worst being at home all day because know I am financially dependent on him. Which he brings ups every chance he gets. Like the woman above he too has come home at anytime to find me cleaning, taking a nap, watching a movie, with the doors looked and the house quiet but it still doesn't matter. Not to mention that he demands sex himself when he wants and if I don't give in then that means that I already had sex with someone else. Also....he has a addiction to porn. He looks at it right it in front of me and doesn't care how I feel. I have asked kindly, I have yelled, silent treatment, nothing works. He watches it for hours. He gets home from work, gets settled in, turns around and watches porn for at least 2 to 3 hours. Then he will eat, maybe get on Facebook, then back to porn for another 2 to 3 hours till he goes to bed. If he wakes up in the middle of the night it is a guarantee that he is watching porn. I know that this has ruined his view of women. He is always thinking a woman no matter who she is a whore of some kind. From his mother,(she doesn't help she was definitely emotional abusive to him but that's another blog for another day)sisters, friends, women on TV and movies, random women on the street. If he hears a woman dies by her husband on the news he first response is I wonder what she do, she was probably cheating. We have two kids and our children love him but they think he is downright crazy. They have seen first hand of the their father ranting and raving about me cheating with whoever and I never even left our children sight! My son and daughter have said mom I feel bad for you, or why can't we leave. I know I wrote a lot I just needed to vent. If anyone going through this any advice would be greatly appreciated.
 
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I am going through this as well. I am so unhappy. I love my husband but his controlling ways and paranoia has gotten worse that he is acting the same way to me almost everyday! I feel stupid because I used to be one of those women who would think "why doesn't she leave?" Just yesterday he comes home from work, at first he fine, laughing and acting all happy, but as the day goes on here he goes with asking me questions, looking through the clothes for sign of bodily fluids from sexual activity with God knows who(it can be anybody he thinks his friends, relatives, unseen men, and a random man(whose name that I NEVER knew but he insisted I did) at store we BOTH worked at(same hours and days) who he thinks I had sex with in a dressing room while we working on the SAME FLOOR) and searching and researching my internet history and accusing me of putting mysterious back end apps on the computer and phone to hide messaging this mystery man. Like the woman above I too worked. I had a couple of good jobs with the state of Florida and USPS. Well he would call me as soon as I would get in the car to get to work, be on the phone with me the entire ride to work, then stay on the phone with me my ENTIRE 8 hour shift and lunch hour(and don't let the phone hang up then that would me I was having sex with someone that quick) then stay on the phone the entire ride from work back home until I pulled up in front of the house! Yes this is 100% true. Now I know any reasonable person would think what, why deal with that. My logic was well maybe he can hear that nothing is going on but me working. NOPE to him I was still have sex, if he heard a male co worker talking to someone well I must like him, too silent that means I giving someone a sexual favor, I'm laughing too much that means that I am planning to cheat later. he insisted that a woman wanted to fight me because I slept with her husband! The sad thing she was a co worker asking for help loading potluck food in her car. How he heard your're sleeping with my husband I never understood. Or accusing me of making plans with a stranger when they were asking for directions, or just making up blatant lies and stories that NEVER HAPPENED.I quit both of the good jobs just so he would stop but it never stops it just as worst being at home all day because know I am financially dependent on him. Which he brings ups every chance he gets. Like the woman above he too has come home at anytime to find me cleaning, taking a nap, watching a movie, with the doors looked and the house quiet but it still doesn't matter. Not to mention that he demands sex himself when he wants and if I don't give in then that means that I already had sex with someone else. Also....he has a addiction to porn. He looks at it right it in front of me and doesn't care how I feel. I have asked kindly, I have yelled, silent treatment, nothing works. He watches it for hours. He gets home from work, gets settled in, turns around and watches porn for at least 2 to 3 hours. Then he will eat, maybe get on Facebook, then back to porn for another 2 to 3 hours till he goes to bed. If he wakes up in the middle of the night it is a guarantee that he is watching porn. I know that this has ruined his view of women. He is always thinking a woman no matter who she is a whore of some kind. From his mother,(she doesn't help she was definitely emotional abusive to him but that's another blog for another day)sisters, friends, women on TV and movies, random women on the street. If he hears a woman dies by her husband on the news he first response is I wonder what she do, she was probably cheating. We have two kids and our children love him but they think he is downright crazy. They have seen first hand of the their father ranting and raving about me cheating with whoever and I never even left our children sight! My son and daughter have said mom I feel bad for you, or why can't we leave. I know I wrote a lot I just needed to vent. If anyone going through this any advice would be greatly appreciated.
I think your hubby needs to recognise he's got a problem and is paranoid. I wouldn't want to stick with someone who was constantly accusing me, without reason.
Is it possible to have an open discussion with him about it? I guess not if you've got to this stage. Sounds like a tough situation.
 
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I am going through this as well. I am so unhappy. I love my husband but his controlling ways and paranoia has gotten worse that he is acting the same way to me almost everyday! I feel stupid because I used to be one of those women who would think "why doesn't she leave?" Just yesterday he comes home from work, at first he fine, laughing and acting all happy, but as the day goes on here he goes with asking me questions, looking through the clothes for sign of bodily fluids from sexual activity with God knows who(it can be anybody he thinks his friends, relatives, unseen men, and a random man(whose name that I NEVER knew but he insisted I did) at store we BOTH worked at(same hours and days) who he thinks I had sex with in a dressing room while we working on the SAME FLOOR) and searching and researching my internet history and accusing me of putting mysterious back end apps on the computer and phone to hide messaging this mystery man. Like the woman above I too worked. I had a couple of good jobs with the state of Florida and USPS. Well he would call me as soon as I would get in the car to get to work, be on the phone with me the entire ride to work, then stay on the phone with me my ENTIRE 8 hour shift and lunch hour(and don't let the phone hang up then that would me I was having sex with someone that quick) then stay on the phone the entire ride from work back home until I pulled up in front of the house! Yes this is 100% true. Now I know any reasonable person would think what, why deal with that. My logic was well maybe he can hear that nothing is going on but me working. NOPE to him I was still have sex, if he heard a male co worker talking to someone well I must like him, too silent that means I giving someone a sexual favor, I'm laughing too much that means that I am planning to cheat later. he insisted that a woman wanted to fight me because I slept with her husband! The sad thing she was a co worker asking for help loading potluck food in her car. How he heard your're sleeping with my husband I never understood. Or accusing me of making plans with a stranger when they were asking for directions, or just making up blatant lies and stories that NEVER HAPPENED.I quit both of the good jobs just so he would stop but it never stops it just as worst being at home all day because know I am financially dependent on him. Which he brings ups every chance he gets. Like the woman above he too has come home at anytime to find me cleaning, taking a nap, watching a movie, with the doors looked and the house quiet but it still doesn't matter. Not to mention that he demands sex himself when he wants and if I don't give in then that means that I already had sex with someone else. Also....he has a addiction to porn. He looks at it right it in front of me and doesn't care how I feel. I have asked kindly, I have yelled, silent treatment, nothing works. He watches it for hours. He gets home from work, gets settled in, turns around and watches porn for at least 2 to 3 hours. Then he will eat, maybe get on Facebook, then back to porn for another 2 to 3 hours till he goes to bed. If he wakes up in the middle of the night it is a guarantee that he is watching porn. I know that this has ruined his view of women. He is always thinking a woman no matter who she is a whore of some kind. From his mother,(she doesn't help she was definitely emotional abusive to him but that's another blog for another day)sisters, friends, women on TV and movies, random women on the street. If he hears a woman dies by her husband on the news he first response is I wonder what she do, she was probably cheating. We have two kids and our children love him but they think he is downright crazy. They have seen first hand of the their father ranting and raving about me cheating with whoever and I never even left our children sight! My son and daughter have said mom I feel bad for you, or why can't we leave. I know I wrote a lot I just needed to vent. If anyone going through this any advice would be greatly appreciated.
The only advice you need is, DIVORCE HIM! This is abusive behaviour, accusations, disrespecting you etc, abuse, emotional abuse! Get a divorce , get back to work , kick him out!! That`s all you need to do.
 
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I am going through this as well. I am so unhappy. I love my husband but his controlling ways and paranoia has gotten worse that he is acting the same way to me almost everyday! I feel stupid because I used to be one of those women who would think "why doesn't she leave?" Just yesterday he comes home from work, at first he fine, laughing and acting all happy, but as the day goes on here he goes with asking me questions, looking through the clothes for sign of bodily fluids from sexual activity with God knows who(it can be anybody he thinks his friends, relatives, unseen men, and a random man(whose name that I NEVER knew but he insisted I did) at store we BOTH worked at(same hours and days) who he thinks I had sex with in a dressing room while we working on the SAME FLOOR) and searching and researching my internet history and accusing me of putting mysterious back end apps on the computer and phone to hide messaging this mystery man. Like the woman above I too worked. I had a couple of good jobs with the state of Florida and USPS. Well he would call me as soon as I would get in the car to get to work, be on the phone with me the entire ride to work, then stay on the phone with me my ENTIRE 8 hour shift and lunch hour(and don't let the phone hang up then that would me I was having sex with someone that quick) then stay on the phone the entire ride from work back home until I pulled up in front of the house! Yes this is 100% true. Now I know any reasonable person would think what, why deal with that. My logic was well maybe he can hear that nothing is going on but me working. NOPE to him I was still have sex, if he heard a male co worker talking to someone well I must like him, too silent that means I giving someone a sexual favor, I'm laughing too much that means that I am planning to cheat later. he insisted that a woman wanted to fight me because I slept with her husband! The sad thing she was a co worker asking for help loading potluck food in her car. How he heard your're sleeping with my husband I never understood. Or accusing me of making plans with a stranger when they were asking for directions, or just making up blatant lies and stories that NEVER HAPPENED.I quit both of the good jobs just so he would stop but it never stops it just as worst being at home all day because know I am financially dependent on him. Which he brings ups every chance he gets. Like the woman above he too has come home at anytime to find me cleaning, taking a nap, watching a movie, with the doors looked and the house quiet but it still doesn't matter. Not to mention that he demands sex himself when he wants and if I don't give in then that means that I already had sex with someone else. Also....he has a addiction to porn. He looks at it right it in front of me and doesn't care how I feel. I have asked kindly, I have yelled, silent treatment, nothing works. He watches it for hours. He gets home from work, gets settled in, turns around and watches porn for at least 2 to 3 hours. Then he will eat, maybe get on Facebook, then back to porn for another 2 to 3 hours till he goes to bed. If he wakes up in the middle of the night it is a guarantee that he is watching porn. I know that this has ruined his view of women. He is always thinking a woman no matter who she is a whore of some kind. From his mother,(she doesn't help she was definitely emotional abusive to him but that's another blog for another day)sisters, friends, women on TV and movies, random women on the street. If he hears a woman dies by her husband on the news he first response is I wonder what she do, she was probably cheating. We have two kids and our children love him but they think he is downright crazy. They have seen first hand of the their father ranting and raving about me cheating with whoever and I never even left our children sight! My son and daughter have said mom I feel bad for you, or why can't we leave. I know I wrote a lot I just needed to vent. If anyone going through this any advice would be greatly appreciated.

I escaped from this a little over 10 years ago. I STILL suffer with the after effects to this day. Agoraphobia due to every time I left the house I was accused of sleeping with someone. when I stopped leaving the house I was accused of sleeping with the postman. It has affected me in many ways.
It is extremely damaging to both you and your children.

This is abusive behaviour, and quite extreme. Along with his views on domestic violence on the news as well, shows that this is all likely down to his view of women, rather than it being any mental health condition (not saying he doesnt suffer with one).

Someone helped me see the light by saying "you're showing your daughter that this behaviour can be tolerated, and you're showing your son that it is okay to treat women this way"

My advice would be to leave. As soon as possible.
By all means ask him to seek help, ask him to fight for your relationship(in the form of help and treatment) if that is what you truly want, but do all of this away from him.
 
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Yeah after re-reading that again, I think this guy is a lost cause. I think he has no respect for his wife.
I was kind of giving him the benefit of the doubt, with this being a mental health forum and all that, you know, he could have issues himself.
But I think the behaviour, particularly with respect to the online viewing habits is disgraceful. I would say get out of there ASAP, it's going to be extremely damaging for you and the kids!
 
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Have you thought that it might be him cheating and by accusing you it makes him feel better. My ex was constantly on about me cheating. If one of his work colleges so much as mentioned my name we were supposed be having a torrid affair. I began to realise that he said these things to bring on an argument so he could march out of the house. Leaving me with the kids while he met up with his lady friend. Needless to say it finally struck home with me and we divorced
 
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I feel so bad for all of you whose husbands think they are cheating. I came out of a relationship like this twice. It was very difficult as I had young children no job and no self esteem. It has been over 14 years since I left the last bad relationship. They DO NOT CHANGE!!!

14 years later and both men are still the same. I have changed Thank God. I still have poor self esteem and when I hear a noise my stomach starts turning into knots. It is like they are still after me with their verbal, physical and emotional abuse. I had no privacy. I use feel safer in a public restroom than in my own home.

I know it is almost impossible to leave-they never seem to let go unless they find another female to torcher. I had to go live in a homeless shelter for 6 months until I could get back on feet and raise my son. That was tough but I met a lot of people just like me. I made it. But the damage was done. I will never be the same person again.

GET OUT OF THE RELATIONSHIPS LADIES!!! No Fears No Worries Lots of love hugs and hope Jules
 
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What the hell is wrong with men?!! :unsure::(
Seems like this is quite common. There's a lot more to life than sex, but seems like a lot of men are obsessed with it. Must be like a drug addiction.
Still doesn't excuse the disrespectful behaviour.
 
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I am going through this as well. I am so unhappy. I love my husband but his controlling ways and paranoia has gotten worse that he is acting the same way to me almost everyday! I feel stupid because I used to be one of those women who would think "why doesn't she leave?" Just yesterday he comes home from work, at first he fine, laughing and acting all happy, but as the day goes on here he goes with asking me questions, looking through the clothes for sign of bodily fluids from sexual activity with God knows who(it can be anybody he thinks his friends, relatives, unseen men, and a random man(whose name that I NEVER knew but he insisted I did) at store we BOTH worked at(same hours and days) who he thinks I had sex with in a dressing room while we working on the SAME FLOOR) and searching and researching my internet history and accusing me of putting mysterious back end apps on the computer and phone to hide messaging this mystery man. Like the woman above I too worked. I had a couple of good jobs with the state of Florida and USPS. Well he would call me as soon as I would get in the car to get to work, be on the phone with me the entire ride to work, then stay on the phone with me my ENTIRE 8 hour shift and lunch hour(and don't let the phone hang up then that would me I was having sex with someone that quick) then stay on the phone the entire ride from work back home until I pulled up in front of the house! Yes this is 100% true. Now I know any reasonable person would think what, why deal with that. My logic was well maybe he can hear that nothing is going on but me working. NOPE to him I was still have sex, if he heard a male co worker talking to someone well I must like him, too silent that means I giving someone a sexual favor, I'm laughing too much that means that I am planning to cheat later. he insisted that a woman wanted to fight me because I slept with her husband! The sad thing she was a co worker asking for help loading potluck food in her car. How he heard your're sleeping with my husband I never understood. Or accusing me of making plans with a stranger when they were asking for directions, or just making up blatant lies and stories that NEVER HAPPENED.I quit both of the good jobs just so he would stop but it never stops it just as worst being at home all day because know I am financially dependent on him. Which he brings ups every chance he gets. Like the woman above he too has come home at anytime to find me cleaning, taking a nap, watching a movie, with the doors looked and the house quiet but it still doesn't matter. Not to mention that he demands sex himself when he wants and if I don't give in then that means that I already had sex with someone else. Also....he has a addiction to porn. He looks at it right it in front of me and doesn't care how I feel. I have asked kindly, I have yelled, silent treatment, nothing works. He watches it for hours. He gets home from work, gets settled in, turns around and watches porn for at least 2 to 3 hours. Then he will eat, maybe get on Facebook, then back to porn for another 2 to 3 hours till he goes to bed. If he wakes up in the middle of the night it is a guarantee that he is watching porn. I know that this has ruined his view of women. He is always thinking a woman no matter who she is a whore of some kind. From his mother,(she doesn't help she was definitely emotional abusive to him but that's another blog for another day)sisters, friends, women on TV and movies, random women on the street. If he hears a woman dies by her husband on the news he first response is I wonder what she do, she was probably cheating. We have two kids and our children love him but they think he is downright crazy. They have seen first hand of the their father ranting and raving about me cheating with whoever and I never even left our children sight! My son and daughter have said mom I feel bad for you, or why can't we leave. I know I wrote a lot I just needed to vent. If anyone going through this any advice would be greatly appreciated.
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I am going through this as well. I am so unhappy. I love my husband but his controlling ways and paranoia has gotten worse that he is acting the same way to me almost everyday! I feel stupid because I used to be one of those women who would think "why doesn't she leave?" Just yesterday he comes home from work, at first he fine, laughing and acting all happy, but as the day goes on here he goes with asking me questions, looking through the clothes for sign of bodily fluids from sexual activity with God knows who(it can be anybody he thinks his friends, relatives, unseen men, and a random man(whose name that I NEVER knew but he insisted I did) at store we BOTH worked at(same hours and days) who he thinks I had sex with in a dressing room while we working on the SAME FLOOR) and searching and researching my internet history and accusing me of putting mysterious back end apps on the computer and phone to hide messaging this mystery man. Like the woman above I too worked. I had a couple of good jobs with the state of Florida and USPS. Well he would call me as soon as I would get in the car to get to work, be on the phone with me the entire ride to work, then stay on the phone with me my ENTIRE 8 hour shift and lunch hour(and don't let the phone hang up then that would me I was having sex with someone that quick) then stay on the phone the entire ride from work back home until I pulled up in front of the house! Yes this is 100% true. Now I know any reasonable person would think what, why deal with that. My logic was well maybe he can hear that nothing is going on but me working. NOPE to him I was still have sex, if he heard a male co worker talking to someone well I must like him, too silent that means I giving someone a sexual favor, I'm laughing too much that means that I am planning to cheat later. he insisted that a woman wanted to fight me because I slept with her husband! The sad thing she was a co worker asking for help loading potluck food in her car. How he heard your're sleeping with my husband I never understood. Or accusing me of making plans with a stranger when they were asking for directions, or just making up blatant lies and stories that NEVER HAPPENED.I quit both of the good jobs just so he would stop but it never stops it just as worst being at home all day because know I am financially dependent on him. Which he brings ups every chance he gets. Like the woman above he too has come home at anytime to find me cleaning, taking a nap, watching a movie, with the doors looked and the house quiet but it still doesn't matter. Not to mention that he demands sex himself when he wants and if I don't give in then that means that I already had sex with someone else. Also....he has a addiction to porn. He looks at it right it in front of me and doesn't care how I feel. I have asked kindly, I have yelled, silent treatment, nothing works. He watches it for hours. He gets home from work, gets settled in, turns around and watches porn for at least 2 to 3 hours. Then he will eat, maybe get on Facebook, then back to porn for another 2 to 3 hours till he goes to bed. If he wakes up in the middle of the night it is a guarantee that he is watching porn. I know that this has ruined his view of women. He is always thinking a woman no matter who she is a whore of some kind. From his mother,(she doesn't help she was definitely emotional abusive to him but that's another blog for another day)sisters, friends, women on TV and movies, random women on the street. If he hears a woman dies by her husband on the news he first response is I wonder what she do, she was probably cheating. We have two kids and our children love him but they think he is downright crazy. They have seen first hand of the their father ranting and raving about me cheating with whoever and I never even left our children sight! My son and daughter have said mom I feel bad for you, or why can't we leave. I know I wrote a lot I just needed to vent. If anyone going through this any advice would be greatly appreciated.
hi I'm going through a little bit of this now I'm so confused by it all I wonder if you would like a chat about it ?
 
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