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helpme76
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hi there,
i was hoping that maybe i could get to understand/cope with my husbands recent BP diagnosis. looking into forums and came across this one so any help replies would be greatly appreciated!
if i'm honest and look back over my 12 and a half year relationship with my husband i could now say that there have been symtoms of BP all along.
there have been many good years together ... although there has not been a whole year where seemingly BP has rocked our relationship and at times turned in upside down. My friends used to laugh and say oh is he having one of his 6 monthly blowouts! i have for years taken his behaviour as a personal thing ... at times being made to feel boring, too sensible, just maybe not the right person for him. Then on the flipside treated like a princess, spoilt and then jealous and over protective.
throughout all these years i did not know and neither did my husband that he had BP and i just thought it was his personality, blaming drinking, drugs, bad company and influences.
i finally agreed for us to start a family and so 2 months went by us trying!(something he had wanted for so long and was the most important thing in the world to him ..... only for him to then say no more than 12 hours after hoping that this month was the month that maybe in his mid thirties he was too old. he walked out the house and 2 months later i have had very little contact with him and he is saying he can sort himself out with meditation, living in a quiet place and just being left alone. He has cancelled a Drs appointment that he has had to wait so long for and is refusing to look at any treatment/ counselling or other help!
not only have i been left with the financial difficulties,(and not the 1st time) i feel resentful, guilty and in complete dispair.
i love him dearly but can't cope with it all .... my life has been a roller coaster for years and i have the difficult decision to make ......
when is enough enough! Especially when he doesn't seem to want to get any help .... he said he likes the way he is???? sometimes that has included thinking he is Jesus (help!)
i was hoping that maybe i could get to understand/cope with my husbands recent BP diagnosis. looking into forums and came across this one so any help replies would be greatly appreciated!
if i'm honest and look back over my 12 and a half year relationship with my husband i could now say that there have been symtoms of BP all along.
there have been many good years together ... although there has not been a whole year where seemingly BP has rocked our relationship and at times turned in upside down. My friends used to laugh and say oh is he having one of his 6 monthly blowouts! i have for years taken his behaviour as a personal thing ... at times being made to feel boring, too sensible, just maybe not the right person for him. Then on the flipside treated like a princess, spoilt and then jealous and over protective.
throughout all these years i did not know and neither did my husband that he had BP and i just thought it was his personality, blaming drinking, drugs, bad company and influences.
i finally agreed for us to start a family and so 2 months went by us trying!(something he had wanted for so long and was the most important thing in the world to him ..... only for him to then say no more than 12 hours after hoping that this month was the month that maybe in his mid thirties he was too old. he walked out the house and 2 months later i have had very little contact with him and he is saying he can sort himself out with meditation, living in a quiet place and just being left alone. He has cancelled a Drs appointment that he has had to wait so long for and is refusing to look at any treatment/ counselling or other help!
not only have i been left with the financial difficulties,(and not the 1st time) i feel resentful, guilty and in complete dispair.
i love him dearly but can't cope with it all .... my life has been a roller coaster for years and i have the difficult decision to make ......
when is enough enough! Especially when he doesn't seem to want to get any help .... he said he likes the way he is???? sometimes that has included thinking he is Jesus (help!)
