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I had really hoped that I was in a better place. Hadn’t SH for a wee while. Then today turned out to be a bad day. Sad as it sounds, it’s the relief I get when I’m feeling this bad. Maybe tomorrow will be better. Sorry to others that go through this too.
 
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I'm sorry you're hurting this way Lostlady. I hope you feel better soon. Take care and best wishes.

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I had really hoped that I was in a better place. Hadn’t SH for a wee while. Then today turned out to be a bad day. Sad as it sounds, it’s the relief I get when I’m feeling this bad. Maybe tomorrow will be better. Sorry to others that go through this too.
Do you want to talk about it?
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:grouphug: I'm sorry today is not good, can you turn it around? I find getting out for a walk very helpful at changing my thinking pattern. It's very cold here but with a big coat and hat, it is very pleasant outside.
 
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:grouphug: I'm sorry today is not good, can you turn it around? I find getting out for a walk very helpful at changing my thinking pattern. It's very cold here but with a big coat and hat, it is very pleasant outside.
Thanks. And I do try my hardest every day to use distractions. It’s warm where I live and I’ve been going on really long walks each day. I try lots of other things too, but sometimes there’s just that deep dark hole. I know it will pass, just wish it wouldn’t return like it always does.
 
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Do you have any friends or family around you? A doctor that knows how you are struggling?

Are you taking any medication or having any other treatment?

Distraction is what i do with my problems.
 
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Do you have any friends or family around you? A doctor that knows how you are struggling?

Are you taking any medication or having any other treatment?

Distraction is what i do with my problems.
I don’t have any family or friends that understand me. I have bpd so I guess SH is only part of the problem. My doctor isn’t very understanding. Last time I saw him he said that I looked really sad, but life is hard. And all of the doctors here aren’t taking on anymore patients so there’s not an option to change. I guess the storm will pass.
 
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I don’t have any family or friends that understand me. I have bpd so I guess SH is only part of the problem. My doctor isn’t very understanding. Last time I saw him he said that I looked really sad, but life is hard. And all of the doctors here aren’t taking on anymore patients so there’s not an option to change. I guess the storm will pass.
It sounds like your doctor cares even if he doesn't understand. I am certainly feeling the sadness coming through in your writing, the hopelessness.

Do you live with your family? I don't know how old you are or your circumstances, but my life changed for the better when i got my own place to live.
 
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It sounds like your doctor cares even if he doesn't understand. I am certainly feeling the sadness coming through in your writing, the hopelessness.

Do you live with your family? I don't know how old you are or your circumstances, but my life changed for the better when i got my own place to live.
Thank you for caring. And yes I probably sound young because of my stupid actions. But I’m actually in my 40’s. And I shouldn’t be sh at my age. Some of my children still live with me, they are older now and don’t need me as much. And I’m good at hiding my hurt and behaviours from them.
 
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It's not stupid
I'm over 40 and not much has changed for me, just life is more peaceful.
I've never self harmed, not sure why, but I do other things to cope like drink too much coffee, snack, drinking sometimes but not excessively.

I hope you feel better soon.
what helps you?
 
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It's not stupid
I'm over 40 and not much has changed for me, just life is more peaceful.
I've never self harmed, not sure why, but I do other things to cope like drink too much coffee, snack, drinking sometimes but not excessively.

I hope you feel better soon.
what helps you?
I’m glad you’ve never self harmed. It becomes an addiction that gives me a high feeling. I also drink, but not too much.
what helps me is walking, especially to the beach. Listening to the waves is cool. I also like listening to music, watching drama programs and colouring in adult colouring books.
Thank you. I know I will feel better soon. Then I just have to wait for the next storm. Sometimes I wonder why life is so hard.
 
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